#207 - What If It Never Happens For Me?

Those two little words - what if - can stop us in our tracks. What if I've left it too late? What if I do all the work and it still never happens for me?In this episode, I'm digging into the what-ifs that seem to show up more insistently as we move into midlife and beyond, and why they're not actually messages from your soul, they're your brain's attempt to keep you safely exactly where you are.Here's what I'm exploring this week:~ Why your brain registers change as danger, and how it "future-paces the scary" to keep you from moving toward what you really want~ The two unhelpful responses most women fall into: either surrendering to the fear and giving up on the dream, or bulldozing through and dysregulating their nervous system in the process~ A third way: working with your brain and body rather than against them~ Why identity work matters more than strategy when you're reaching for something new, and how to hold the duality of loving who you are now while protecting the vision of who you're becoming~ The power of baby steps (and my two non-negotiable criteria for what actually qualifies as one)How to reframe the what ifs from contractions into expansions - what if this is the year everything starts to change for me?This one was recorded a little off-the-cuff because the topic wouldn't wait. If you've been circling a dream and wondering whether it's too late, or whether it'll ever land, this episode is for you.Mentioned in this episode:Free journaling prompts to work through your own what-ifs - email the word 'CALLING' to [email protected] and we'll send you the workbook.Come and find me:Subscribe to the ReWild with Gill Moakes Substack for more like thisFollow me on InstagramShare this episode with a woman who needs to hear itWould you consider leaving review if the show has meant something to you - it genuinely helps others find their way here This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gillmoakes.substack.com