208: The BJJ Mindset That Wins On and Off the Mat

Have you ever been told you need to be "more aggressive" on the mats, only to find yourself awkwardly trying to manufacture anger toward your competition or training partners? Or maybe you've been labeled "too aggressive" at work when being direct about your boundaries, expectations, or needs. The line between assertive and aggressive is often blurry for women in BJJ and beyond. It’s time for a mindset shift. Assertiveness isn’t aggression; it’s clarity, confidence, and control. Let’s reframe how we go after what we want, on and off the mats, without forcing anger or being unfairly labeled.   Chapters Certainly! Here is the sequence of topics covered in the transcript, now with timestamps: (00:00) Calling out hate speech (05:19) Why your BJJ gym needs to feel safe and supportive (07:11)  Mindset shift to reframe aggressiveness as assertiveness (09:16) When your coach tells you to be more aggressive (11:01) Being full of NO (14:18) The role of aggressiveness in Martial Arts (16:45) Learning to be proactive instead of reactive (17:45) Assertiveness vs. Aggression off the mat   If you Love the Podcast, Share it with a Friend! You can also leave us a 5 Star Rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts https://open.spotify.com/show/3IHT3BNicukNtCVa3AAwBI https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beauty-and-the-gi/id1458389465?mt=2 Learn More about Roll Model Grappling Camp https://rollmodelswanted.com/ New to the Podcast? Start with these episodes https://open.spotify.com/playlist/19P8KcTyNTIA0hZPQYAbuN?si=f841456b4906439f https://beautyandthegi.libsyn.com/category/Start+Here Subscribe to Beauty and the Gi on YouTube or in your Favorite Podcasting App https://episodes.fm/1458389465 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7EBCzi7znNuvxKlpLvue-w Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beauty-and-the-gi/id1458389465?mt=2 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/3IHT3BNicukNtCVa3AAwBI Beauty and the Gi on Audible https://www.audible.com/pd/Beauty-and-the-Gi-Podcast/B08JJMFS1D? Learn More about Roll Model Grappling Camp https://rollmodelswanted.com/ Connect with Jen and AJ Beauty and the Gi Podcast on Instagram @beautyandthegipodcast Jen on Instagram @brassybroadjen Jen on TikTok @brassybroadjen AJ on Instagram @ajclingerman AJ on TikTok @roll_model rollmodelhq on Instagram Links and Resources https://www.rollmodelswanted.com/ Recording, Theme Music, Editing, and Production of this podcast by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company Disclaimer: The Beauty and the Gi podcast and content posted by Beauty and the Gi is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.