21. Dr. Shefali, Radically & Consciously REAL AF

“...Culture doesn't train parents to take accountability. Parents are given the full permission and leeway to be traditional, hierarchical, tyrannical, and abusive to their kids. In ways like this, we begin to see how our desire to control our children is disguised as care and love, but it's really control.” -Dr. Shefali TsabaryThe easiest way to parent—and the way many of us were raised ourselves—is to robotically, unconsciously repeat the way we were parented. And here’s the thing: changing that pattern is hard work! Not only does it take a massive level of consciousness, it also requires you to take ownership for your mistakes and to possess the wherewithal to know how to correct them.Today, I’m talking to Dr. Shefali Tsabary, an acclaimed author, international speaker, New York Times best seller, and fellow mama. Her blend of clinical psychology and eastern mindfulness has set her apart as a leader in the field of mindfulness psychology. She also speaks at events around the globe, spreading her message of conscious parenting and mindful living.Tune in and listen to episode twenty one of Mamaste with Tanika Ray. Dr. Shefali and I are talking about conscious parenthood and how important it is to evaluate the way we were parented instead of simply repeating the same patterns. We also discuss the separation we create when we label ourselves, how Dr. Shefali parents her daughter in order to instill these values, and how proud she was when, at the age of 12, her daughter told Dr. Shefali and her husband that they were “irrelevant.”In This Episode, You Will Learn:The reason why Dr. Shefali started to lean out of private practice and into spreading her message worldwide (02:25)Dr. Shefali’s first epiphany that made her begin questioning many of the beliefs she had been raised with (10:12)You have to be willing to look at the nothingness in order to receive the everythingness (14:48)The stage Dr. Shefali and her daughter have reached in their relationship now (29:43)Dr. Shefali’s tips for parents of only-children—in and out of the pandemic (36:10)Dr. Shefali’s must-haves for motherhood (39:34)About the village of support that Dr. Shefali keeps around her (48:37)Connect with Dr. Shefali:WebsiteInstagramA Radical Awakening by Dr. Shefali TsabaryThe Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali TsabaryLet’s Connect!WebsiteFacebookInstagramYouTubeTwitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.