211: Sexual Dry Spells: When Safety Kills Passion

The holidays are coming up, and this is often a stressful time for a lot of couples. The stress and busyness can often lead couples to fall into dry spells in their sex life. And Emily and I are not immune to those dry spells either. So whether you're in a dry spell or looking to avoid one, this episode is for you! We're going to cover practical ways to keep your marriage and sex life going strong through all the seasons of life. Resources: Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less 2025 Couples Retreat You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com    Episode highlights: 4:37: Seeing the Patterns in Your Relationship 6:13: Calm the heck down 7:18: Notice emotions and how they present in your body 7:40: The measure of your marriage isn't how you handle yourself when things are going well, but when life is hard 9:00: Separate the act of sex from the meanings attached to it. 11:04: When we look to our spouse, as a reason behind the dry spell, it opens you up to a potential of self-deception 12:25: Routine kills passion 14:34: Need both love and desire 17:37: Offer good sex 19:07: Questions to ask yourself and thoughts to consider 21:55: "But my spouse doesn't want to change"