212. Parenting & the Power of Showing Up with Dr. Tina Bryson #WellnessWednesdays

Dr. Tina Bryson is the author of The Bottom Line For Baby and the co-author, with Dan Siegel, of The Yes Brain, The Power of Showing Up, as well as two New York Times bestsellers, the Whole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline. Her body of work has had an immense impact on my parenting journey, which is only part of the reason I’m so excited she’s sharing her time with us today. We touch on many of Dr. Bryson’s core concepts of well-adjusted parenting, most tied to the fact that our little ones are actually brilliant – that their brains create automatic associations, just like ours. Still, we need to be mindful of our explicit and implicit messaging; just because they can make associations doesn’t mean they’re right (or logical), after all. She also gives some amazing and actionable advice on a couple specific behavioral challenges we’re seeing with Bash at home, and blesses us with some other quick tools on empowering kids to be brave, name their feelings, and build resilience. .   If you are a new parent or even thinking about having children, I would start reading her books and practicing on your partner. Dr. Bryson’s techniques are revolutionary and she is spearheading an important change in parenting that we are now seeing all over the internet – and she has been for a decade. Thank you, Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, for being on the show. You will learn about... Living out her principles in her own life  The brain is an association machine Dr. Bryson on brain development The four-to-five year cognitive jump Repetition and practice to build skills Calming their nervous system with connection Sebastian’s screen time tantrums – help! Comforting is still skill building Top-down vs. bottom-up processing strategies Saying ‘yes’ to your child while saying ‘no’ to their behavior Four year olds are brilliant! (and hard) How posture, movement and breathing impact mood Empowering your child to come up with the solution Implicit messages vs. explicit messages Identifying fear-based parenting Minimizing and criticizing vs empathizing  Giving our kid boundaries  Adversity + support leads to resilience  Embracing and understanding negative feelings  Sebastian’s tough time with drop-offs – help!  Am I being a snowplow parent? Center yourself, kids are savvy detectives  Ask them what’s wrong (sometimes it is that simple) Dr. Bryson shares a great idea to empower kids Hard boundaries: sleep/bedtime and respect Praise: how much is too much? What your kids need most is you Read: The Bottom Line for Baby Resources: Website: tinabryson.com Read: tinabryson.com/books Instagram: @tinapaynebryson Twitter: @tinabryson Linkedin: Tina Payne Bryson PhD Connect with Kelly: kellyleveque.com Instagram: @bewellbykelly Facebook: www.facebook.com/bewellbykelly Be Well By Kelly is produced by Crate Media. Mentioned in this episode: BWBK Protein Powder | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at bewellbykelly.com. Drink LMNT LMNT | Go to DrinkLMNT.com/Kelly to order a free sample pack of LMNT electrolytes. Just pay shipping (only $5 if you're in the US)!