212 – When Adoption Stories Hurt: Helping Your Child Through the Hard Moments (with Jane Baker)

“If your own mother won’t fight to keep you, what does that say about you?” Has your adopted child ever asked a question that stopped you in your tracks? Something so deep and painful, you weren’t sure how to answer?💔 Hi Neighbor, In this powerful episode, I sit down again with my friend and trusted adoption professional, Jane Baker. Jane brings decades of experience walking with children and families through the hard work of healing adoption trauma. In the first part of this series, we focused on adopted children who simply want to know their story—how to answer their questions, give them what they need, and respond with honesty and empathy. (You can listen to that conversation in Episode 210.) In this second part, Jane shares wisdom on what to say when your child’s story is hard to tell. This one will make you both laugh and cry. Together, we talk about how to: ✨ Help your child understand that their birth parents’ choices don’t define their worth. 💬 Respond to painful questions with honesty, empathy, and compassion. 🧩 Recognize when your child’s anger is really grief in disguise. 🌿 Create a safe space for healing—one quiet moment, one patient conversation at a time. Jane also shares one of the most profound moments of her career—a conversation with a little boy whose words capture the heartache many adopted children feel. His story will move you deeply and remind you of the sacred work you’re doing as a parent. I’ll also share a Biblical principle from 1 Corinthians 13:4 that ties beautifully into Jane’s wisdom. 📖 Some healing can’t be hurried. God’s love often works in the slow, quiet spaces. If you’ve ever wondered how to walk with your child through pain you can’t fix, this episode will encourage you to stay present, trust God’s timing, and love with patient endurance.💛 Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way. Your Neighbor, Tim💙 P.S. If you’ve ever felt lost trying to connect Scripture with the realities of adoption trauma, I’d love to walk alongside you. Let’s have a one-on-one conversation where we can talk through practical tools and Biblical encouragement for your journey. 👉 Send me an email at [email protected] to grab your spot. I’d be honored to walk with you. 💙 If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through. Connect with Jane Baker: Phone: 256-353-8528 Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.adoption-associates.com/ Listen to Jane’s Episodes: 8 – Adoption Trauma Defined! Part 1: How to Understand Its Causes and Effects with Jane Baker 9 – Adoption Trauma Defined! Part 2: How to Find Help and a Good Therapist with Jane Baker 86 – When Friends Fail You! How Adoptive Parents Can Heal From Betrayal? With Jane Baker 183 – Adoption Struggles: Wisdom I Wish I Had Known with Jane Baker