214: July Joy Series: Pain, Suffering, and Happiness in Our Relationships with Ourselves and Others

As we begin to wrap up our July Joy Series on the Habit Thrive Podcast, this week's conversation explores one of the most powerful ideas we've discussed all month:Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.Life will always include disappointment, conflict, grief, frustration, and heartache. Those moments are part of being human.But what we do after the pain—that story we tell ourselves, the replaying, the overthinking, the defensiveness—is often where suffering begins.In this episode, we explore how our relationships can become both our greatest source of joy and our greatest opportunity for growth. Every interaction gives us a chance to pause, become more aware of our thoughts, and intentionally choose a response that aligns with the person we're becoming.You'll also hear how this week's conversation connects with last week's episode on rejoicing in the joy of others, why social media can actually become a practice ground for cultivating joy, and how something as ordinary as road rage can teach us about resilience.In this episode, you'll discover:Why pain and suffering are not the same thing.How our thoughts often create more suffering than the original experience.The importance of learning to pause before reacting.Why relationships are one of life's greatest "training grounds" for emotional resilience.How awareness is a sign of growth—even if you don't get it right in the moment.How difficult seasons can expand our appreciation for joy.So, the next time you experience frustration, hurt, or disappointment, pause before adding a story to the moment. Simply notice what's happening. Ask yourself:"Am I experiencing pain… or am I creating suffering?"That small moment of awareness may be the first step toward greater peace, resilience, and joy.xoxoLorrieIn this episode:The How of Happiness by Sonja LyubomirskyLoving the show? Let’s connect! Find me:Facebook: Women's Wellness Community: For women wanting to rock their “Me Now” YearsInstagram: @Habitguru365Website: lorriemickelson.comMemberVault: lorriemickelson.vipmembervault.comPower & Purpose Daily Motivations: A Year of Coming Home to Yourself: Find it hereHabits, Mindfulness Routines & Self Care For Women 50 & BeyondLoving the show? Let’s connect! Find me:Facebook: Women's Wellness Community: For women wanting to rock their “Me Now” YearsInstagram: @Habitguru365Website: lorriemickelson.comMemberVault: lorriemickelson.vipmembervault.comHabits, Mindfulness Routines & Self Care For Women 50 & Beyond