217: Why 'Know Your Needs' Is Misleading Advice in Burnout—Your Nervous System Can’t Even Feel Them Yet

Have you ever been told to “just get clear on your needs”... and felt even more confused?Because when your nervous system is dysregulated, even that well-meaning advice can send you on a wild goose chase.In this episode, we explore why identifying and meeting your needs can feel exhausting—especially when you’re in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. You’ll learn why what feels like a need—rest, journaling, asking for something—is sometimes just an outdated survival mechanism.✨ Inside, we’ll explore: – How to tell the difference between your survival thoughts and your true needs – The one self-dialogue question that unlocks the part of you trying to protect yourself – A gentle reframe: “If I knew I was safe and loved, what would I do?”I’ll walk you through real-life examples—like the part of me that thought I needed to initiate a difficult conversation, but what I actually needed… was to stop judging myself.🤍 If you’ve been chasing strategies (another conversation, a perfectly worded email, a better to-do list)—this episode will help you pause, regulate, and come back to what’s real.Start here, and meet the deeper part of you that knows exactly what it needsRecommended next episode: 211: The Real Reason You Can’t Show Up: Burnout + Nervous System Shutdown - click hereBook - Somatic Intelligence for Success Nervous system alignment to prevent burnout and leave an impact. Purchase here. Regulation Cheat Sheet PDF Learn to regulate with practices you'll actually use. No need for more time, space or privacy. Download here. Group & 1:1 supportJoin The Academy where visionary leaders build their businesses and bank accounts without sacrificing well-being. Through nervous system regulation tools, body-based trauma therapy, and practical business tips, you learn how to create a business that leaves a positive, lasting impact on the world. Click here.AI co-regulator & nervous system strategist Soma helps you shift out of spirals, self-doubt, and stress-based decision-making—so you can lead from your most grounded, self-aware state. Access here. This podcast explores the intersection of sales, money, and business success, offering entrepreneurial insights on overcoming the inner critic, burnout, and the unique challenges of ADHD and autoimmune conditions, while integrating polyvagal theory, Ayurveda, coaching, resilience, regulation, and trauma healing to support holistic growth and thriving in both life and business.