22: Franco Lombardi | Learning Pickup Takes Discipline, Part 2

I’m pleased to announce Part 2 of my interview with Franco Lombardi on the importance of Discipline. Discipline is more of a mindset approach to dating as opposed to having an uncontrolled environment. • 00:20 – A quick review of Part 1 • 01:41 – How to strategize what methods to keep and what to stop using, and why the #1 goal of every guy is to find a system that works to get laid, then focus on improving different parts • 03:12 – If you know A, keep A. Don’t change A if it works, but start solving for other variables until you’re getting laid. Online dating is a great testing ground for variables • 04:55 – Location as its own variable – how to play with dating apps • 06:40 – Why beginners and virgins should set small goals to start. Approach and A: open a girl with the Goal of B: a conversation. Then once A is complete, move to B. Then once B is complete, go to C: get her number • 08:30 – How building a disciplined system is like building a custom ladder where every rung is a specific process • 09:35 – Common pitfall: how many guys aim to get to the top rung without fully building the base • 10:45 – We discuss advanced guys who already have working ladders, and how they improve their ladders by improving certain rungs • 12:50 – Franco discusses how he changes just one variable to adjust the structure of his ladder to get higher performance rates. And how to use another’s success to adapt their game to oneself • 15:40 – Why proper execution of a new method is critical. When trying new methods, take into account that it might not be executed correctly and will require further testing • 17:10 – There’s never a 100% success rate in the dating game, but we can aim to get as close as possible. No variable can have a 100% success rate • 18:55 – The first goal is to have a working ladder, even if not perfect, to have a system for getting laid. When a ladder is working, focus on improving each rung • 19:45 – We talk about stacks and routines in the PUA community – they give you controlled, solved variables, like preassembled rungs for a ladder • 21:30 – Typical pitfall points for guys when it comes to discipline, and how Varoon’s introduction of polyamory in his ladder destroyed rungs further up • 23:10 – Some hard rules in any dating ladders, like avoiding religion, politics, feminism, things that create dissimilarity, and dating habits • 23:50 – How confirmation biases affect results when guys don’t test new methods fluidly • 26:20 – Discipline is a long-term goal for dating, and good foresight is key for determining your own rules • 29:00 – Discipline is the difference between the controlled, civilized man and the beast • 30:15 – Control and calibration equate to developing yourself as a true social Alpha, whereas the beast is uncontrolled and uncalibrated • 32:00 – Using control to be the impulsive beast at the correct times. The civilized man knows when to be impulsive and when not to be • 32:45 – Long-term thinking as a function of Discipline CHATS WITH CHASE For this episode’s Chats with Chase, we got a great comment from listener Alexander about what to focus on when improving conversation skills. • 34:15 – Introduction • 34:55 – Chase talks about early experiences with conversation and Deep Diving • 35:45 – Chase shares thread amplification • 36:30 – A conversation without thread amplification and how it feels superficial, with no relational elements • 37:30 – How to fix a jumpy conversation using thread amplification, with examples • 39:20 – Why to begin conversations by relating to girls in general ways, and why to make a girl feel free when she’s talking with you Listen online: http://www.girlschase.com/content/franco-lombardi-learning-pickup-takes-discipline-part-2-podcast LEARN SOMETHING GOOD? SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW! If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review. This helps us reach more ears, and casts your vote for “Yes! Make more episodes!”