22. The 6 Phrases that Poison Relationships and What to Say Instead

Have the past few years been tough on your relationship? Have you found yourself in long, relentless arguments with your partner whereby you can no longer think compassionately? Not to worry, you’re not alone. In this episode, I unpack six of the most common phrases that poison relationships – and explore alternative responses that ultimately cause less hurt. Let us look at what is underneath the hurt and resentment, and explore how our feelings shut down when we become emotionally overwhelmed. “Keep your cool, hold onto your truth, and don’t just take on your partner’s ‘why?’ Stay steady within and think: what does this signify? Gently, lovingly, say: ‘I would love to share ‘why’. Do you have some time? Are you really asking and would you really like to know?’ Then your partner is bound to have a curiosity-based conversation.” ~ Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy In This Episode:- Learn to substitute ‘why?’ for ‘what’, ‘how’, ‘where’, or ‘which’, allowing the other person to share their perspective rather than being shut off- Turn “do you really want to know?” into a matter of curiosity, committing your partner to active listening- “You made me…” – take ownership of your own actions and responses, and live blame-free- The pitfalls of diagnosing gaslighting and narcissism in our relationships- How to buy yourself time so that you’re not forced into an opinion when responding Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:- Facebook- Facebook Group- LinkedIn- YouTube- Special Offers: MasteryFREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-NewsletterNeed more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun