222. Maybe our kid's behaviors are a mirror for us for self examination

What if our kid's behaviors are a mirror for us to examine our actions and attitudes and then adjust accordingly? We've all been there; our kids aren't doing what we want or, worse, doing something we've told them not to do. We feel like we've told them 1000 times not to do it or start doing it...whatever it is. So we rachet up the intensity, and often we get behavior modification. But is that actually a win? What is really a win? My wife stops by, and we discuss this from our professional and personal lives.