229. Failure Resistance

Have you ever noticed how one small slip, one mistake, or even one word can send you spiralling into old patterns? In episode 229 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick talks about why so many men feel huge resistance around the idea of failing, and how that resistance then shapes and influences their attempts to rethink alcohol. Patrick shares how school, parenting and early experiences teach us that getting things 'wrong' is something to avoid. He also shares a personal moment from home where an innocent word triggered an old emotional reaction, and how that experience opened up a deeper conversation about identity, childhood wounds and the meaning we attach to failure. You'll hear insights from Gabor Maté and Amy Edmondson to show why our brains react the way they do, why avoidance can feel safer than trying, and why men often lean on willpower when what they really need is curiosity and compassion. Patrick explains how shifting the energy you bring to rethinking alcohol, from pressure to permission, completely changes your experience results. Get ready for a powerful question at the end of the show that will help you see what you’re truly proving to yourself every time you try to change your drinking.Awesome topics you'll hear in this epsiode: Old experiences shape how you react to mistakes today.Avoidance isn’t laziness, it’s emotional protection.Willpower burns out quickly, curiosity keeps you moving.Feeling safe to get things wrong is essential for growth.Failure is feedback, not identity.Sobriety works best when treated as a skill you develop.Resisting failure keeps you stuck in the same loop.The win isn’t avoiding the fall, it’s getting better at getting up.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Patrick:Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠patrickjfox.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@thealcoholrethinkpodcast⁠⁠Want to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the challenge here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠