23: Can You Really Be Friends With Your Ex?

If you’ve ever wondered whether you can really stay friends with an ex — or why it feels easier with some people and impossible with others — this episode is about to drag you (lovingly) into the truth you’ve been avoiding.In this episode, Vanessa breaks down the messy, hilarious, and surprisingly tender world of staying friends with your exes — from long-term relationships to those short-lived “situationships” that barely lasted a season. We dive into why some breakups lead to genuine friendship, why others need a clean break, and how emotional attachment (or lack of it) plays a huge role.We also explore the BIG question:Is it more common in same-sex relationships to stay friends with your ex?  Vanessa shares her real-life experiences — from being friends with ex-girlfriends, to maintaining relationships with her ex-wife’s exes, to finally becoming friends with an ex-boyfriend who originally wanted nothing to do with her. We unpack community dynamics, emotional intimacy, and why queer relationships often create “chosen family” instead of clean exits.Plus, we bring in insights inspired by relationship therapist Esther Perel, who reminds us that post-breakup friendships can work — but only when the relationship is redefined with clarity, boundaries, and emotional honesty.If you’re navigating a breakup, redefining a relationship, or trying to understand your own patterns, this episode gives you the real talk, the psychology, and the humor you didn’t know you needed.If this episode hits home, share it with a friend who needs to hear it, subscribe so you never miss a drop, and leave a review to help more mujeres find this space. Your support helps this community grow.IG: UnicornsdoexistPOD