Unicorns Do Exist

 This episode is for anyone who’s tired of being the “nice one,” tired of being tested, and tired of people trying to drag them back into an old story they’ve already outgrown. If you’re learning boundaries, protecting your peace, and choosing your new life over old chaos — this one is a must‑listen. Press play and share it with someone who’s at their breaking point.Follow @unicornsdoexist 

If you thought Part 1 was wild… baby, you’re not ready for this one.  In this episode, I’m picking up exactly where we left off — the breakup, the co‑parenting chaos, the Mexico trip, the mixed signals, the boundaries, the disrespect, the healing, the “let my people deal with you,” ALL OF IT.This is the episode where the fog lifts, the truth hits, and the receipts come out.If you’ve ever tried to co‑parent with someone who wants the perks of the relationship without the responsibility… yeah, you’re gonna feel this in your chest.We’re talking: Post‑breakup confusion and emotional whiplash Co‑parenting when one person still acts like you’re together Setting boundaries even when it hurts Choosing your peace over the past And the moment I realized… oh, she really thought we were getting back together? This is raw. This is real. This is Latina‑mom healing in real time.  And if you’ve ever been the “strong one,” the “present parent,” the “one who holds it all together”… this episode is your hug and your hype.🎧 Press play NOW — because if you miss this part, you’re gonna be lost.  This is the chapter everyone’s been waiting for.👉 Listen, share, and tag me when you scream “GIRL, SAME.”Unicorns Do Exist 

This is the episode I was terrified to record — and the one you’ve been waiting for.  If you’ve ever stayed too long, loved too hard, or lost yourself trying to keep a family together… this one is going to hit you in the chest.For the first time, I’m sharing my side of my divorce — not from anger, not from pain, but from a place of healing, clarity, and finally being able to breathe again.From the loneliness of pregnancy (“I remember laying in bed… calling my ex from work just so I didn’t feel so lonely”) to the moment everything cracked (“that day… something in me broke”), to the slow death of a relationship I once thought would last forever… I’m walking you through the truth I’ve held in for years.This episode is for the women who:✨ Felt abandoned during the moments they needed love the most✨ Carried the entire household, the baby, the emotions, the everything✨ Tried to fix it, tried therapy, tried swallowing their pain✨ Finally realized they deserved more — and chose themselvesI’m not here to bash. I’m here to tell the truth, honor my healing, and remind you that you are not crazy, you are not dramatic, and you are not “too much.”You were just with someone who didn’t know how to show up for you.If you’ve ever felt unseen in your own relationship… press play.  Your healing starts the moment you stop hiding your story.👉 Listen now, share it with a woman who needs this, and leave a review so more mujeres can find this space.Follow @unicornsdoexist

STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING — this is the episode you didn’t know you needed today.  If you’ve ever struggled with mental health, grown up in a culture where “we don’t talk about that,” or used survival mode as your personality… this episode is going to hit you right in the heart..In this raw, honest, and deeply human conversation, I’m taking you through the parts of my story I’ve never sugar‑coated — growing up around alcoholism, navigating my sexuality in a traditional Hispanic household, the first time I experienced a full mental breakdown, and the moment my little baby sister walked in and I realized something had to change.You’ll hear how I went from Xanax and beer as coping mechanisms (yes, that was a thing — “my mom would rather me drink a beer than take medication” ) to checking myself into a clinic, rebuilding my mind, and discovering the tools that actually saved my life — therapy, movement, personal development, and learning to reprogram the beliefs I grew up with.This episode is your reminder that:✨ You’re not broken.✨ You’re not alone.✨ Healing is messy, but it’s possible.✨ And you deserve a life that feels peaceful, grounded, and yours.If you’ve been carrying things you never had the space to process… press play.  Your healing era starts the moment you decide you’re done surviving and ready to start living.👉 Listen now, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more Latinas can find this message@unicornsdoexist

If you’ve ever wondered whether you can really stay friends with an ex — or why it feels easier with some people and impossible with others — this episode is about to drag you (lovingly) into the truth you’ve been avoiding.In this episode, Vanessa breaks down the messy, hilarious, and surprisingly tender world of staying friends with your exes — from long-term relationships to those short-lived “situationships” that barely lasted a season. We dive into why some breakups lead to genuine friendship, why others need a clean break, and how emotional attachment (or lack of it) plays a huge role.We also explore the BIG question:Is it more common in same-sex relationships to stay friends with your ex?  Vanessa shares her real-life experiences — from being friends with ex-girlfriends, to maintaining relationships with her ex-wife’s exes, to finally becoming friends with an ex-boyfriend who originally wanted nothing to do with her. We unpack community dynamics, emotional intimacy, and why queer relationships often create “chosen family” instead of clean exits.Plus, we bring in insights inspired by relationship therapist Esther Perel, who reminds us that post-breakup friendships can work — but only when the relationship is redefined with clarity, boundaries, and emotional honesty.If you’re navigating a breakup, redefining a relationship, or trying to understand your own patterns, this episode gives you the real talk, the psychology, and the humor you didn’t know you needed.If this episode hits home, share it with a friend who needs to hear it, subscribe so you never miss a drop, and leave a review to help more mujeres find this space. Your support helps this community grow.IG: UnicornsdoexistPOD

This episode is for every woman who’s leveling up, glowing up, and finally realizing she is the prize, not the consolation.Today, we’re talking about becoming that woman — the one everyone wants, but not everyone gets access to. The woman who invests in herself, respects herself, and refuses to let anyone with no goals, no values, or no direction get close to her energy.Because here’s the truth:People will treat you the way you treat yourself.  If you carry yourself with self‑respect, intention, and standards, the world responds.If you’re stepping into your high‑value era, your boundaries become your superpower.This episode is for my women who work on themselves — the gym girls, the moms rediscovering their confidence, the MILFs who look like they walked out of a photoshoot, the women who invest time, money, and heart into becoming their best selves.We’re talking about:✨ Why NOT everyone deserves access to you✨ How standards protect your peace✨ Why ambition and values matter more than looks✨ How to choose partners who match your energy✨ Why respecting yourself changes everythingWe RUN the show.We set the Vibes.We make the rules.And when we act like women of value, the world treats us like women of value.This is your reminder that you are the light — and not everyone gets to stand in it.Tune in, MILF energy activated.

This episode is your wake‑up call.  If you’re a high‑spirited woman, a feminine‑energy powerhouse, or a woman who’s ever dimmed her light in a relationship — you need to press play right now.Today we’re diving into why bright, confident, high‑value women attract everyone — lovers, leeches, leaders, and men who want to stand next to your shine because they don’t have their own. This episode breaks down feminine energy, self‑worth, relationship power dynamics, and what happens when a woman forgets she is the blessing.I’m sharing my story — how my light got dimmed, how I rebuilt myself, and how I realized the truth so many women forget:You were the lifestyle.You were the upgrade.You were the energy that made everything grow.Before the relationship, I already traveled.I already had standards.I already had taste.I already had a passport and good tequila in my hand.I didn’t become valuable because of them — they looked valuable because they were standing next to me.If you’ve ever felt drained, stuck, undervalued, or like you lost yourself while loving someone else, this episode will help you reclaim your feminine power, rebuild your confidence, and remember your worth.This is for the women who feel “too far gone.”This is for the women who forgot their magic.This is for the women who are ready to stop apologizing and start rising.Press play.Not later.NOW.  Your light is waiting to come back.@unicornsdoexistAlso Happy Bday to the youngest adult of the Ruiz Family 

If you listen to ONE episode this year, let it be this one — because this is the kind of message that flips a switch in your brain and changes your entire life.In this episode, we break down the unstoppable, unapologetic confidence of the Olympic gold medalist who just dominated the skiing world — gold, two silvers, highest‑paid female athlete, Stanford student, Vogue model… and the way she spoke at that press conference? Pure power. Pure certainty. Pure “I know exactly who I am.”And then I share my story — the heartbreak, the postpartum abandonment, the fear, the rebuilding, the BMW, the bigger apartment, the trips, the glow‑up, the self‑belief I had to train from scratch.This episode is your reminder that:You can literally change your life by changing your mind.  Everything you need is already inside you.Your uniqueness is your superpower.And you are allowed — no, REQUIRED — to own your greatness.If you’ve been shrinking, doubting, apologizing, or forgetting who the hell you are… press play.Your future self is begging you not to skip this one.IG: @unicornsdoexsit 

In this heartfelt episode, Vanessa opens up about the power of real, soul‑nourishing friendships — the kind that help rebuild you, celebrate you, and walk with you through every season of life. Inspired by Galentine’s Day, sisterhood, and her own healing journey, she shares how meaningful female friendships transformed her life after years of feeling alone, overly dependent on relationships, and disconnected from community.Vanessa reflects on: How she went from isolating herself in relationships to nurturing a thriving circle of women Why healthy friendships are essential for emotional well‑being, healing, and growth The difference between draining friendships and empowering ones How to attract aligned women by choosing yourself first Practical ways to build friendships as an adult — even if it feels scary The importance of vulnerability, reciprocity, and showing up Letting go of friendships rooted in unhealthy habits or obligation How affirmations, self‑love, and community helped her rebuild her life This episode is a warm reminder that you are Never too broken, too late, or too far gone to create the friendships you deserve. Your village is out there — and it starts with becoming the friend you wish you had.

New year, new energy, and a very real life update. In this episode, I’m sharing what 2026 is already teaching me — from manifesting a third bedroom and upgrading to a BMW, to understanding that patience and gratitude will take you further than panic ever could.We’re also getting into the Benito halftime takeover, media distractions, and the slightly unhinged story of how a new pre-workout had me questioning my entire existence (don’t worry, I survived… obviously).It’s mindset, manifestation, growth, humor, and honest reflections about what it really looks like to step into your next level — even when it doesn’t look perfect.Follow the podcast and send this to your favorite unicorn who’s claiming their upgrade this year 🦄✨🎧 Share it with your favorite unicorn. 📲 Follow the pod on Instagram: @unicornsdoexistpod 🎥 Full video episodes coming to Substack.And remember… Unicorns do exist.

Alcoholism in the Hispanic community is often ignored, joked about, or swept under the rug — and we’re done staying quiet.In this episode of Unicorns Do Exist, I’m joined by Gaby, host of the No Pus Guao podcast, for a fun, honest, very Latina conversation about alcohol, weed, ecstasy, and why alcohol is the most normalized — and most dangerous — drug of all.We talk culture, family patterns, machismo, silence, and how alcohol is treated as “normal” while other substances are villainized. Plus, with the Super Bowl and Bad Bunny headlining the halftime show — aka the Benito Bowl — we dive into that cultural moment too. 🏈🎤🍻 This is real talk, simple words, lots of flavor — and zero judgment. If you grew up around alcohol, questioned it, or felt like nobody ever wanted to talk about it… this episode is for you.🎙️ Follow Gaby from No Pus Guao ✨ New episodes weekly — because healing and honesty can coexist. 🦄 Listen Now Unicorns Do Exist POD

This episode is an honest one.We’re talking about what’s happening in the United States right now, why it feels so heavy, and why this moment isn’t new — it’s just finally being seen. And instead of spiraling into fear or numbness, we’re having an honest conversation about choice: the meaning we give things, the perspective we live from, and the strength we’re being called into right now.I share why pain is a catalyst, not a dead end — and why more than ever, we can’t afford to ignore what’s happening, or let it destroy us. Awareness matters. Standing up for one another matters. Becoming mentally, emotionally, and physically stronger matters.We also talk about how precious life actually is — and how you can only see what you’re willing to open yourself to. Your brain is trained to prove itself right, which is why women who believe “all the good ones are gone” somehow keep ending up with the same version of That Bad Man over and over again. Not because it’s true — but because perception shapes reality.This episode is about: Choosing meaning instead of fear Growth instead of despair Awareness without losing your humanity Strength without becoming hardened And why hate always comes from self-hate If the world feels overwhelming right now, this conversation will ground you — not by pretending things are fine, but by reminding you that you still have power, choice, and responsibility in how you move forward.🎧 Listen now and choose to see differently — because what you focus on is what you create.Follow the podcast on Instagram @unicornsdoexistpod And make sure to follow the show on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, and iHeartRadio so you never miss an episode.Thank you, Querida Senora for hosting the perfect Paint Night for this Unicorns Bday 

Why do so many people want passion, attraction, and a soft feminine partner… without doing the work to lead, grow, or evolve?In this episode of Unicorns Do Exist, Vanessa gets real (and a little spicy) about lazy energy in relationships—and why attraction dies when there’s no drive, no purpose, and no personal growth. We’re talking masculine and feminine energy, emotional leadership, physical vitality, and why simply having a job is not the same as being a high-value partner.Using insights from Esther Perel and Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson, this episode breaks down what actually creates desire, polarity, and safety in modern relationships—whether you identify with masculine or feminine energy.This is not a man-bashing episode. This is a wake-up call.If you’ve ever felt turned off by lack of ambition, uninspired by emotional laziness, or frustrated trying to soften when there’s nothing to lean into—this conversation will hit home.✨ Expect topics like: Masculine vs feminine energy in relationships Why attraction requires movement, growth, and leadership Emotional safety, polarity, and desire Why driven people don’t stay “broke” (in any sense of the word) How laziness kills intimacy—physically, mentally, and emotionally 🎧 Listen now, share this episode with someone who needs the mirror, and don’t forget to follow the podcast so you don’t miss what’s coming next.🦄 Unicorns do exist… but they don’t settle for stagnant energy.

In this episode of Unicorns Do Exist, Vanessa gets radically honest about why she’s dating without intention—and why it’s been the healthiest decision she’s ever made.This is a deep, unfiltered conversation about love, motherhood, freedom, cultural conditioning, divorce glow-ups, and why rushing into relationships out of fear creates more suffering than solitude ever could. Vanessa unpacks how women—especially in the Hispanic community—are taught to endure, sacrifice, and follow timelines that were never questioned.Drawing from The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz and her own lived experience as a mother navigating dating, co-parenting, and self-discovery, this episode challenges everything we’ve been told about marriage, kids, and “doing life right.”⚠️ Fair warning: once you see it, you can’t unsee it.🎧 Listen to the end for a perspective on heartbreak, loneliness, and why choosing yourself first isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. 👉 If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs permission to slow down. 🦄 Don’t forget to follow Unicorns Do Exist for more real, raw conversations.

New year. New word. Same real, unfiltered me. In this episode, Vanessa reflects on heartbreak, grief, missed flights, mom guilt, starting over, and why even your messiest moments are still part of your magic. This is about choosing intention over perfection and trusting that everything really does happen for a reason—even the hot mess chapters.If this episode hits, follow Unicorns Do Exist and share it with someone who needs permission to begin again.This episode is sponsored by PricklyBerry, an angel number clothing brand reminding you that the universe is always speaking—if you’re paying attention. Wear your alignment, your protection, and your magic with intention.

I answered your questions and overshared on purpose — you’re welcome 😌🎄This episode is my Christmas gift to you 🎄🦄 No lessons. No fixing. Just me — answering your questions, oversharing a little, laughing a lot, and letting you actually get to know the woman behind Unicorns Do Exist.It’s honest, flirty, funny, and slightly unhinged in the best way. Grab a drink, get comfy, and hang out with me for 45 minutes.You’re welcome. 😉Thank you to @pricklyberry.com for Sponsoring this Episode 

In this episode, Vanessa shares the full story of her Mexico City trip — the good, the bad, and the not-so-funny-but-somehow-still-funny parts life likes to throw in when you least expect it.What starts as a trip rooted in faith, intention, and joy quickly turns into missed plans, chaos, emotional spirals, and an unexpected loss that puts everything into perspective. Vanessa opens up about grief, missing home, motherhood, heartbreak, and what it feels like when life humbles you in real time.This episode is dedicated to her friend Rob — a beautiful soul, a jokester, and the kind of person who showed up for others and quite literally left this world laughing.It’s honest. It’s messy. It’s emotional. And it’s a reminder that healing isn’t linear, plans fall apart, and being alive is still the biggest blessing of all.Listen if you’ve ever laughed through pain, cried through gratitude, or tried to find meaning without forcing it.🦄 @Unicornsdoexistpod Come Say Hi  Tacos, Beer & Lucha Libre  Take a trip 

If you’re starting over right now — by choice or because life snatched the rug from under you — this episode is your sign. Not the soft, gentle kind… the “get up, Doll, your glow-up is calling” kind. ✨😈We’re talking: 🔥 healing after heartbreak 🔥 starting over as a single mom 🔥 getting fired and rebuilding 🔥 reinventing yourself when life falls apart 🔥 letting go of who you were to become who you’re meant to be 🔥 the messy, chaotic, magical reality of a REAL fresh startThis is the episode for anyone googling “how to start over,” scrolling TikTok for healing videos, or secretly wondering if their life is falling apart or falling into place.Spoiler: it’s falling into place.I’m sharing my own plot twists — divorce, being cheated on, moving out with my son at 9 months old, losing my job on maternity leave, rebuilding my career from scratch, and traveling more this year than I ever did in my old life.Why? Because starting over isn’t embarrassing. It’s evolution. It’s your rebirth arc. It’s the part of the movie where the main character (you, Doll) stands back up… stronger, hotter, wiser, and probably with better boundaries. 😉If you’re in your comeback era, your healing era, your “I refuse to settle” era… you need this episode.🎧 Tune in now and step into the version of you that’s been waiting on the other side of fear. Your fresh start begins here.Follow the podcast on IG: @unicornsdoexistpod And hit follow on Spotify Or Apple Podcast so you never miss an episode. ✨

Step into your villain era, Doll — the era where you stop shrinking, stop apologizing, and stop carrying relationships, friendships, and dynamics that drain the life out of you.This episode of Unicorns Do Exist is for the woman who’s tired of being the “nice girl,” exhausted from people-pleasing, and so done abandoning herself just to be liked.Inside this episode, we dive into: ✨ How choosing yourself triggers people (and why that’s a good thing) ✨ The shift from victim mentality to main-character energy ✨ Dark feminine power + self-trust ✨ The freedom that comes with letting people think whatever they want ✨ Why your “villain era” is actually your rebirth If you’ve been craving a podcast that mixes self-love, shadow work, confidence, healing, and a little dark humor with Latina sass… Doll, you just found your show.You’re not being mean.You’re not being dramatic.You’re not being selfish.You’re finally choosing YOU — and that’s what unleashes your power.🎧 Hit play. 🌪️ Step into your villain era. 🦄 And when you’re done, send me a unicorn so I know you’re listening.@unicornsdoexistpod And because magic moves fast around here… I just dropped a brand-new 7-Day Dark Feminine eBook in my Stand Store — the perfect companion to this episode and the “Damn Unicorn Magic” episode.  

In today’s episode of Unicorns Do Exist, we’re welcoming our very first guest — and trust me, she’s a full-blown unicorn in human form. ✨Meet Urmi: an Italian-Bengali powerhouse living in Montreal, a corporate finance pro, mentor, blogger, YouTuber, self-published author, speaker, and the co-chair of Women in Leadership. Yeah… sis showed up with ALL the titles and ALL the magic.Together, we dive into the beauty and challenges of growing up multicultural, finding your identity when you never felt like you fully “fit,” and turning that exact feeling into your superpower.We talk self-discovery, growth, authenticity, and why women who refuse to shrink become the most powerful versions of themselves. This episode feels like sitting with two amigas who have lived a thousand lives and are finally choosing themselves.If you’ve ever felt “too different,” “too much,” or like you don’t belong anywhere — this one is your love note. 💜✨ Listen now and discover why your uniqueness is your greatest magic. ✨ Follow us on Instagram: @unicornsdoexistpod ✨ Share this episode with a friend who needs to remember her sparkle.

Doll… if you’ve been acting like a cute little glitter unicorn but deep down you know you’ve got claws? Yeah. This episode is for you.Today we’re getting into the Dark Feminine — the part of you that doesn’t chase, doesn’t beg, doesn’t negotiate, and definitely doesn’t deal with bare-minimum energy.I’m teaching you how to step into your power as a high-value woman, how to command a room without raising your voice, and how to shift from “pick-me energy” to big, undeniable, magnetic energy.Get ready, Doll. Your inner Dark Unicorn is waking up… and once she comes out, there’s no going back.🎧 Listen now before your future self drags you by the hair for missing this.Follow us at @unicornsdoexistpod

Ever wonder how to fall back in love with the person sleeping next to you? 🫣 In this episode, I dive into “Mating in Captivity” by Esther Perel — and what it really takes to keep the spark alive in long-term relationships.We’re talking emotional connection, desire after chaos, rebuilding trust, and how to bring back that “I want you” energy — even after life, kids, or heartbreak tried to kill the vibe. 😅Whether you’re healing from infidelity, trying to reignite passion, or just tired of feeling like roommates with your partner… this one’s for you. 💜Because love isn’t about finding someone new — it’s about seeing the magic again in the one you already have. ✨ 

Let’s get one thing straight — staying in a relationship just to look like the “nice one” isn’t selfless, it’s self-sabotage. 💅In this episode, Vanessa calls out the truth we all avoid: sometimes we hide behind kindness because we’re too scared to face the unknown. We tell ourselves we’re staying to protect someone, when really, we’re just protecting our own ego.Yes — there are exceptions. If your partner is sick, if they physically need your care, that’s love and loyalty. But staying because you think they’ll crumble without you? That’s not compassion. That’s control wrapped in fear.Vanessa breaks down how to stop playing the martyr, start honoring your truth, and finally walk away from what no longer serves your growth. Inspired by the teachings of Esther Perel and Abraham Hicks, this episode is your permission slip to stop calling suffering “love” and start choosing alignment.💭 Because you’re not doing anyone a favor by staying small — including yourself.

 What if your orientation did a plot twist mid-life? After 20 years of dating women, a long marriage, and the whole postpartum identity tornado — I start noticing men. Not every man. Not a straight-backflip romance. Just a new, confusing, delicious pull I didn’t expect.Follow @unicornsdoexistpod This episode is me, unfiltered: about sex after motherhood, the shame and freedom of changing desire, and how attraction and abundance both want you to show up differently. It’s taboo, tender, hilarious, and honestly — life-changing. Listen if you like messy truth, radical self-honesty, and the kind of conversations people whisper about at brunch. Miss this and you’ll still be guessing tomorrow. ✨ Listen if you’re ready to explore the gray, flirt with the unknown, and manifest the kind of freedom that feels like magic.🎧 Available now on Spotify & Apple Podcasts — don’t forget to follow so you don’t miss your next identity crisis in HD. 💜

Welcome to the beautiful chaos that started it all. In this episode, I get real about where I’ve been — from a 5150 hold to healing, from losing a ten-year “PERFECT” relationship to finding myself again.I talk about the moments that broke me open, the pain that forced me to grow, and the wild, divine delusion that told me to keep believing when logic said, “girl, give it up.”This podcast isn’t about pretending everything’s fine — it’s about owning your story, laughing at the pain once you’re out of tears, and realizing that your mess can still become your message. 🦄💋Because yeah, my delusion comes with a message — and trust me, it’s one you don’t want to miss.

Welcome to Unicorns Do Exist, the unapologetic podcast for women who are ready to rise — after the heartbreak, after the chaos, after forgetting who they were.I’m your host, Vanessa — first-gen Latina, single mama, lesbian, life coach, and living proof that your pain can become your power.This isn’t your average healing podcast. We talk real transformation — the kind that comes after you’ve been through hell and still show up glowing ✨. From self-worth to manifestation, feminine energy to dark humor healing — this is where the comeback begins.If you’re ready to: 💔 Turn your heartbreak into your glow-up 🦋 Stop settling for crumbs 🔥 Step into your dark feminine power 💎 And finally remember who TF you are…Then subscribe now — because your healing era starts here. Every Wednesday, we’ll laugh, cry, manifest, and get a little magical together.✨ Unicorns Do Exist. And you, my love, are one of them. 💜🦄