23 | Sibling Relationships & Autism | Crestina Yaiva

Parenting multiple children while supporting different needs within the family can bring up a wide range of emotions for everyone involved. In this episode of the Autism Family Resource Podcast, Brian Keene sits down with parent guest Crestina Yaiva to talk about sibling relationships, autism, communication, and one parenting shift that unexpectedly transformed the connection between her twin sons. Crestina shares her experience raising nine-year-old twins, including her non-speaking autistic son Franco and his neurotypical twin brother Vincent. She opens up about the emotional dynamics that can quietly develop between siblings and the powerful realization she had after learning the phrase "don't blame the baby." Together, Brian and Crestina explore how subtle language patterns can unintentionally create tension between siblings and how small changes in communication can help strengthen trust, compassion, and connection within the family. This conversation is warm, honest, and deeply relatable for parents navigating sibling relationships in neurodiverse households. Topics Covered Supporting sibling relationships in neurodiverse families Communication challenges between siblings The emotional impact of family language patterns "Don't blame the baby" parenting insight Gentle parenting reflections and awareness Helping siblings feel seen and connected Sibling support groups and community resources Building empathy and understanding within families Timestamps 00:00 Introduction 02:14 Understanding sibling dynamics in autism 04:30 The "don't blame the baby" realization 08:10 How changing language improved sibling connection 11:29 Sibling support groups and SARRC resources 13:29 Peer mentorship and volunteer opportunities 16:23 Final reflections and parenting takeaways Memorable Quote "Once I stopped blaming the situation on one sibling, I noticed the kids started connecting in a much healthier way." About the Guest Crestina Yaiva is a mother of twin boys and shares her experiences parenting in a neurodiverse household. She is passionate about gentle parenting, family connection, and supporting healthy sibling relationships. Kristina also runs a handmade jewelry business featuring textile-inspired and culturally influenced designs. Instagram: @coco_chenzo Resources Mentioned Southwest Autism Research & Resource Center (SARRC) sibling support programs Arizona Autism United SibShop sibling support groups Autism Family Resource Podcast Episode 14 on sibling dynamics About the Host Hosted by Brian Keene, occupational therapist and founder of Pure Hearts Therapy, providing neurodiversity-affirming home-based pediatric therapy services for families across Arizona. Subscribe & Connect If this episode resonated with you, please consider sharing it with another parent who might benefit from this conversation. Listen and subscribe to the Autism Family Resource Podcast: https://pod.link/1591840956 Explore more resources for families at: https://pureheartstherapy.com