#23 - Love Doesn’t Hurt—Self-Abandonment Does: Healing Heartbreak & Reclaiming Joy

In this powerful solo episode, Kena Siu unravels a belief that many of us have carried for far too long: “Love hurts.” But what if that’s not true? What if what really hurts are the attachments, conditions, expectations, and the ways we abandon ourselves trying to be loved?Midlife woman, if you’re walking through the sacred in-between—divorce, loss, reinvention, or awakening—this episode is your call to reclaim your sovereignty, rewrite your story, and return home to your truth.In This Episode, You’ll Hear:Why “love doesn’t hurt” might be the truth that sets your heart free.The real reason heartbreak often feels unbearable—and what it’s actually pointing you to heal.How we unknowingly abandon ourselves in the name of being loved—and how to stop.The one simple shift that can help you love again—even after divorce or disappointment.What happens when you finally reclaim your emotional sovereignty (and stop waiting to be chosen).Reflection Questions for the Midlife Butterfly:In what ways have I abandoned my truth in exchange for love or acceptance?What conditions have I placed on love—both given and received?What would shift if I began to love myself like I’ve always longed to be loved?If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Join my Facebook community, Midlife Butterfly, to share your thoughts and connect with others. For deeper work with these teachings, I have one-on-one coaching available – reach out at hello@ midlifebutterfly.ca or tag me @midlifebutterfly.💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.Instagram: @midlifebutterflyWebsite: midlifebutterfly.caMusic: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada