#23 The Truth About Being a Projector (Human Design) with Laila

In this episode, Valerie and her guest, Laila, explore the lived experience of being a Projector in Human Design. As two splenic projectors, they reflect on intuition, rest, and the quiet power of simply being in a world that celebrates constant doing. Together they share how projectors often grow up feeling different, pushing themselves to keep up with others, only to discover that their true gift is presence, not productivity. This conversation gently reveals the deeper wisdom projectors carry - the ability to hold space, see truth, and guide others simply through their presence. Along the way, they call out two powerful illusions: that our value comes from doing more, and that we must fix others to be loved. Instead, this episode invites a different rhythm, one where rest, intuition, and authenticity become the real source of guidance.Sometimes one conversation can reveal what we couldn’t see before.Connect with LailaYou can find Laila on Substack at The Unfolding Path, where she shares reflections on intuition, life, trading and the unfolding journey of becoming.Connect with Valerie If this conversation stirred something within you, you’re welcome to explore The Activation Session with Valerie — a one-to-one conversation where insight, clarity, and new perspective can naturally unfold.Learn more here: https://www.valeriebirch.com/the-activationTime Stamps00:00 Introduction to Projectors and Connection03:02 The Essence of Co-Creation05:54 Understanding Projector Challenges08:49 The Power of Presence11:37 Setting Boundaries as Projectors14:18 The Importance of Self-Care17:04 Exploring Safety and the Body20:01 Childhood Memories and Healing22:53 Breathwork and Grounding Techniques25:35 The Journey of Self-Discovery33:44 The Role of Eldest Daughters in Healing37:23 Navigating Projector Parenting41:45 Overcoming Guilt and Shame in Rest47:21 The Power of Permission for Projectors51:26 Embracing the New Paradigm for Projectors54:40 Trusting the Spleen and Intuition58:17 Gathering Wisdom Through Diverse Experiences This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe