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EPISODE · Jun 10, 2026 · 26 MIN

230. 7 Practical Tools to Regulate Your Nervous System When You're Triggered

from A HOLY MESS | From Shame, Regret, Exhausted, Burnout To Boundaries, Emotional Healing, Christian Mindset, Recovery, Personal Growth · host Dani Sumner | Christian Life Coach, Spiritual Director, Spiritual Transformation Coach

You've done the deep work. The therapy. The books. The journaling. And you still get triggered, you still slip into the shitty committee, you still reach for the chips or the wine or the doom scroll before your brain catches up. In this episode (a peek inside one of Dani's group sessions), she gives you 7 practical tools to calm the storm so you can actually do the deeper identity shift work and step into your next level. She shares the thesis that "practical isn't sexy, but it's very, very needed," the client story about Jane who learned to giggle at her own shitty committee instead of crucifying herself, and the reframe that will change how you think about the hard people in your life: honor your allergies. In this episode, Dani talks about: Why root work alone keeps you circling the same mountain The "house on fire inside the house" chaos most of us are actually fighting 7 practical tools to reach for the moment a trigger hits (walking, classical music, air lunges, box breathing, calling a friend, dancing, ping pong or a tennis ball) The "honor your allergies" reframe for the people who keep triggering you A simple boundary that saved a friend's sleep (no calls with her daughter past noon) Joel 2:25 and the years the locusts have eaten If your shitty committee has been running you ragged and you're ready to do the deeper identity shift work, this is what I do with my 1:1 clients (and what I train inside the Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this work for others). Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com, or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner if you're ready to grab a spot right now. And if you're not ready yet, this episode will hit like a deep breath and a hug and a kick in the ass all at once. Glad you're here, Dani 🎵 From the Episode Dani's classical music playlist for nervous system regulation: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2AIyLES2xJfPa6EOxmKySl?si=YA5K4BzPTmCWiyrxucOrQg&pi=0GwGP2rIRnOWV Want to Go Deeper? 💫 Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone. If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram  

You've done the deep work. The therapy. The books. The journaling. And you still get triggered, you still slip into the shitty committee, you still reach for the chips or the wine or the doom scroll before your brain catches up. In this episode (a peek inside one of Dani's group sessions), she gives you 7 practical tools to calm the storm so you can actually do the deeper identity shift work and step into your next level. She shares the thesis that "practical isn't sexy, but it's very, very needed," the client story about Jane who learned to giggle at her own shitty committee instead of crucifying herself, and the reframe that will change how you think about the hard people in your life: honor your allergies. In this episode, Dani talks about: Why root work alone keeps you circling the same mountain The "house on fire inside the house" chaos most of us are actually fighting 7 practical tools to reach for the moment a trigger hits (walking, classical music, air lunges, box breathing, calling a friend, dancing, ping pong or a tennis ball) The "honor your allergies" reframe for the people who keep triggering you A simple boundary that saved a friend's sleep (no calls with her daughter past noon) Joel 2:25 and the years the locusts have eaten If your shitty committee has been running you ragged and you're ready to do the deeper identity shift work, this is what I do with my 1:1 clients (and what I train inside the Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this work for others). Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com, or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner if you're ready to grab a spot right now. And if you're not ready yet, this episode will hit like a deep breath and a hug and a kick in the ass all at once. Glad you're here, Dani 🎵 From the Episode Dani's classical music playlist for nervous system regulation: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2AIyLES2xJfPa6EOxmKySl?si=YA5K4BzPTmCWiyrxucOrQg&pi=0GwGP2rIRnOWV Want to Go Deeper? 💫 Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone. If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

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