#230: Turn Your Pain into Your Purpose with Jayson Gaddis

Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Relationship Coaching, Intimacy, Emotional Intelligence Summary: In today’s episode I’m joined once again by the insightful Jayson Gaddis. Tune in as we discuss some of the most common relational challenges we both encounter and how Jayson helps others both better understand relationships AND teach relational skills themselves through The Relationship School. Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and “personal trainer for relationships”, is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and connection. He got tired of complaining that street-level relationship skills are not taught in school, so he founded The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping individuals, couples and teams work out their differences in order to have indestructible relationships. His new book Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was voted Editors Choice, Best non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business book in 2021 on Amazon.   Discover: The most common relationship challenges we both see A common root cause of unavailability  One question to ask yourself when you don’t know whether to stay or go The advantages of being a coach vs. a therapist How Relationship School differs from other trainings Our thoughts on why relationship skills aren’t taught in school 00:00 Intro 01:42 The problem of not having mutual partnership 03:28 The most common relationship challenges 05:10 Dating unavailability 06:35 Should you stay or go? 08:07 Ghosting 08:52 People transform their lives around their relationship pain 11:18 Becoming a therapist 16:45 Group beliefs influencing individual beliefs  20:21 Breaking out of old systems 23:22 Challenging the client 29:18 Hearing feedback 33:46 Teaching how to handle conflict 35:19 Success of a relationship shouldn’t be measured by length 36:59 Movies modeling real life 40:02 Apologizing & conflict repair   Links: Instagram | @jaysongaddis Website | relationshipschool.com Relationship Coach Certification Program | Visit this link to apply! Jayson's team interviews everyone that comes into the program. Once accepted, you will get a massive discount of $1000 at checkout when you use the promo code CREATETHELOVE Book | Getting to Zero I’m Sorry: How to Apologize and Why It Matters with Dr. Harriet Lerner | Part 1 | Part 2  Embracing Conflict with Jayson Gaddis - The Mark Groves Podcast Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands