#233; The self-sabotage demon/Perfectionism: NOT a badge of honour/Shifting Beliefs/what about alcohol?/ Marci Nevin

IMPATIENCE PERFECTIONISM FIXATING ON STRUGGLES because our wins were never enough Hit a point where what you know you SHOULD do is also against what you THINK you should do So doing less, eating more is scary so you keep sabotaging yourself on your way there __ Being afraid to lose your leanness Especially if you had a history of being over weight & not being confident and trying hard to get there (mostly doing dumbshit) Sense of control that you can finally wear whatever you want and you didnt want to go back to it Scared to let go of control That the identity and perception of self is centered around there Fear of success - Oh no, now what… Mum making comments Anyone else judging other people Thoughts are not truths Feelings are not facts We may feel they are because we shape those around our upbringing and old beliefs But it takes alot of work to break those beliefs When your cognitive load is very high and you have all these thoughts in your brain you have little room for logic to happen This is why will power and discipline & motivation fall through You need to act as if and write as with and truly belief it and visualise it and then act in that way - Patience Overeating, self soothing, perfectionist & avoiding emotions Over analysing Wont take action at all If you are not taking action because you don't think youre going to be perfect then you arent even putting yourself up there to go out there How is that serving you if you arent allowing yourself Quell unsettling emotions You have a problem with yourself but wont do anything about it Now you have guilt and shame Now it leaks into other Alcohol Path of least resistance - not face it and 1- celebrate wins - its your evidence for when you are doing well Its showing you that you are capable Hey look at me making these changes you can do it Always write down at least 1 win ever single day, you will always find something in there and if you cant… youll start creating the reality of making them