#236 - John Mollura: Respond, Don't React

John Mollura spent 15 years leading mission-critical field testing for NASA and elite US military units. But his real gift—the ability to read people and see exactly what makes them tick—nearly destroyed everything. This is the story of how he learned to wield that power as a tool for connection instead of control, and what it cost him to get there.We talk about the moment a spiritual awakening forced him to see himself clearly, how he went from using emotional intelligence as a weapon to wielding it as a leader, and the painstaking work of separating your self-worth from your performance. John shares practical wisdom on the Enneagram, the difference between reacting and responding, why discretion is harder to develop than competence, and the quiet courage it takes to let the people you love struggle and figure things out on their own.Whether you're an athlete grappling with identity beyond sport, a leader trying to hold people accountable with grace, or someone trying to break reactive patterns that have shaped your entire life, John's journey offers both the challenge and the blueprint for transformation.John’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-mollura/John’s Site: https://johnmollura.com/Ways to Support the Show👇🏼Nothing Novel: https://nothingnovel.life Socks: https://stupidquestions.show/pages/sq-merch Newsletter: ⁠https://stupidquestions.show/pages/newsletter-signup