237: Midlife, Martyrdom, and Me

Have you ever eaten something you didn't want—just because it was there, or because you didn't want it to go to waste? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I'm sharing a deeply personal story about leftovers, silent resentment, and the invisible rules so many women live by without even realizing it. What started with a container of forgotten vegetables turned into an unexpected insight about worth, sacrifice, and why we often take the smaller portion—not just at the dinner table, but in life. If you've ever felt like you're always the one settling, always making do, always keeping things together while putting yourself last—this episode is for you. We'll explore the hidden beliefs that drive these choices, how they affect your health, and what you can do to start choosing differently. This conversation isn't about food. It's about self-respect, small rebellions, and learning how to want again. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN The hidden thought that drives many women to settle—for food, time, and energy How guilt and thrift are often mistaken for virtue (and how that messes with our habits) The subtle difference between choosing something and defaulting to it A simple reframe you can use to start honoring your preferences—without guilt RESOURCES The 8 Basic Habits of Healthy People Guide & Checklist Daring Greatly by Brené Brown   Get full show notes and more information here: https://elizabethsherman.com/podcast/237  Hey! I love hearing from you. Send me a text. Let me know what resonated with you. I submitted a talk for SXSW 2027: Biohacking Is Just Dieting in a Lab Coat. Community voting runs through August 23rd, and it's part of what determines who gets on stage in Austin next March. If this resonates, I'd love your vote: CLICK HERE. Free account required, takes about a minute. If you’re a woman in midlife who wants better health without obsessing over weight, you’re in the right place. I’m Elizabeth Sherman, a life and health coach and host of the Total Health in Midlife Podcast.After coaching hundreds of women, I know the real problem usually isn’t “not enough information” – it’s too much of it, and not knowing where to start. With close to 300 episodes, this show can feel that way too.To make it easy, I created a free Listener’s Roadmap that helps you figure out which episodes are right for you right now. Tell me what you’re struggling with – low energy, emotional eating, stress, sleep, exercise, or all of the above – and I’ll point you to a curated path of episodes and resources to get you moving.Download your free roadmap at https://elizabethsherman.com/roadmap.