24. The Yes Addiction: How People Pleasing Is Killing Your Relationships

Today's main topic hit close to home for both of us: being addicted to saying "yes." I’m sure you’ve met people who surround themselves with "yes people" who never challenge them, and people who can't say no to anyone.If you're a leader who only wants to hear agreement, you're setting yourself up for massive failure. You're shutting off wisdom because your ego won't let it come through. The people who truly have your best interests at heart will eventually walk away when they realize you don't value their honest input.We talked about how Jesus corrected his disciples and how they weren't afraid to question him either. That's the kind of relationship we should all have with the people in our corner. We should strive for collaborative, honest relationships with people who are willing to listen.If someone disagrees with you, it's not always a personal attack. Sometimes the maintenance person has better insight than the CEO. Sometimes your spouse sees something you can't because they're removed from the immediate situation. Don't discount wisdom just because of where it's coming from.On the flip side, if you're someone who always says yes to everyone, you're probably neglecting the people closest to you. It's exhausting to constantly put out other people's fires, and it opens you up to being manipulated. We even touched on how this applies to adult children and their parents. You're allowed to say no to your parents without guilt when you have your own family.The bottom line? Find balance. Listen to the good people around you. Examine why you need constant approval or why you can't say no. Stop being a "finger princess" who expects everyone to drop everything for you. Surround yourself with people who want to grow and who genuinely care about you, not just what you can do for them. And remember, if you want blind adoration, get a dog!Connect with us: WebsiteInstagram