24. Too Honest for My Own Good - The Line Between Being Truthful and Being Hurtful

Ever been told you’re “too blunt” when you were just being honest? Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who value honesty deeply) talk about what it means to be too honest for your own good — when being direct, truthful, or blunt gets you labelled rude, difficult, or inappropriate.We explore the messy middle ground between honesty and kindness, intent and impact, and why some of us feel physically unable to sugar-coat things — especially when masking, trauma, neurodivergence, power dynamics, and gendered expectations are in the mix.This time we talked about:🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): being told “you could’ve worded that better,” saying the thing everyone’s thinking, and replaying conversations on loop afterwards👀 What it looks like in real life: workplace emails without “fluff,” family dynamics, friendship ruptures, and being chronically misunderstood🧠 Why our brains do it: values around truth-telling, autism and masking, trauma responses, power dynamics, and social conditioning🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: bluntness under stress, over-filtering, people-pleasing, or saying nothing at all🧰 Coping mechanisms: checking intent vs impact, compassion-led honesty, timing, and repairing when things land badly🌱 How to make peace with it: honesty without compassion is cruelty — but honesty with care can be a form of trustThanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US🎙️ Podcast socials:→ Instagram + TikTok: @toomuchapparently→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com👩‍💻 Carly Radford:→ Website: www.carlyradford.com→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:→ Website: www.alicetew.com→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: [email protected]🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------honesty podcast, blunt communication, being too honest, neurodivergent communication, autism podcast, masking podcast, people pleasing, sensitivity podcast, therapy podcast, trauma and communication, power dynamics, emotional honesty, Too Much Apparently podcast