24- What If Your Anger Is A Smoke Signal

Send a DM to Angela directly! Share your comments, feedback and feels. We name the bone deep exhaustion that comes from carrying the mental load alone and explain why anger can harden into contempt over time. We outline a three phase path to feel the grief underneath, shift the patterns that keep you stuck, and find repair without abandoning yourself. • recognising depletion as the driver behind criticism testing and hostility • distinguishing stuck dynamics from physical or emotional abuse and prioritising safety • understanding anger as a smoke signal and contempt as a protective wall • identifying grief as the feeling under resentment and why it needs space • noticing how overfunctioning and moving goalposts can lock the cycle • practicing accountability without blame by separating behavior from story • allowing tasks to be done differently while meeting a minimum standard of care • making repair through small daily moments rather than one big catharsis talk • facing the ceiling when a partner is unwilling to grow and choosing with open eyes If this resonated with you, sign up for my group coaching program for mental load owners called Glass Wing. If you want your partner to sign up for their program, forward them my video for non-mental load owners called Break water.  Come follow me on instagram @MentalLoadCoach and subscribe to my newsletter here. Schedule a free consult with me for my group coaching programs:1) If you are the primary mental load carrier, click here2) if you are the partner of the mental load owner, click here