245: Self-Pity, Sabotage & Self-Soothing

Self-pity is one of the most overlooked emotions we experience, and one of the most powerful. It doesn't stomp in and throw a tantrum. It shows up quietly, as I have to, I deserve this, or no one ever includes me. And because it feels true, we don't even question it. We just… sabotage ourselves. In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I'm sharing a deeply personal moment that pulled back the curtain on my own self-pity spiral—and how it almost derailed my day (and my health habits) before I realized what was happening. We'll explore how this hidden emotion can show up in your thoughts, your food choices, and even your relationship with exercise and rest. If you've ever felt stuck in your routines, quietly resentful of your habits, or unsure why you keep "treating yourself" in ways that don't actually feel good… you'll want to listen all the way through. This might be the clarity you didn't know you needed.     WHAT YOU'LL LEARN Why self-pity is so sneaky—and how to spot it How victim thinking shows up in everyday health habits like eating and exercise A simple mindset shift that restores your sense of agency without judgment     RESOURCES The 8 Basic Habits Healthy People Do (Guide + Checklist) The Total Health in Midlife Listener's Guide Episode 159: Fault vs Responsibility   Get full show notes and more information here: https://elizabethsherman.com/245  Hey! I love hearing from you. Send me a text. Let me know what resonated with you. I submitted a talk for SXSW 2027: Biohacking Is Just Dieting in a Lab Coat. Community voting runs through August 23rd, and it's part of what determines who gets on stage in Austin next March. If this resonates, I'd love your vote: CLICK HERE. Free account required, takes about a minute. If you’re a woman in midlife who wants better health without obsessing over weight, you’re in the right place. I’m Elizabeth Sherman, a life and health coach and host of the Total Health in Midlife Podcast.After coaching hundreds of women, I know the real problem usually isn’t “not enough information” – it’s too much of it, and not knowing where to start. With close to 300 episodes, this show can feel that way too.To make it easy, I created a free Listener’s Roadmap that helps you figure out which episodes are right for you right now. Tell me what you’re struggling with – low energy, emotional eating, stress, sleep, exercise, or all of the above – and I’ll point you to a curated path of episodes and resources to get you moving.Download your free roadmap at https://elizabethsherman.com/roadmap.