249. Parenting Spicy Children & Teens With Mary Van Geffen

Mary Van Geffen is one of my favorite people on Instagram.  I am so excited to share a conversation about raising Spicy Children and parenting by loving yourself.   Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & spicy children.   She helps moms (over the phone or on FaceTime to) gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way.   She has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light!   Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®. Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (now 16), polar-opposite introverted son (14) and un-Enneagramable hubby.   Here is my Instagram account:  https://www.instagram.com/maryvangeffen/ and my website: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/   Here is my link for coaching:    https://CoachingWithMVG.as.me/?appointmentType=6549717    Favorite takeaways: Mary's prompt to ask yourself: What am I feeling right now?   Planning Ahead for a Mom & Me Date wwwww   Books Mentioned: Untangled by Lisa Damour Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne   Podcast on 7 Patterns of Play     Mary's Key Practices: 1:1 Time that is Child-Led & full of the parent delighting in them Grounding Yourself Getting Away    Join Mary's Parenting Siblings School  Use code PODCAST for $5 off Treat jealousy, constant bickering, mean words & tattling with confidence. End the "you love her more!" complaint once and for all. Learn when to step in. Learn the blueprint for positive conflict resolution. Help kids set boundaries & hear each other's point of view even when skills, ages, and personalities are very different. Become the calmest one in the room. Register here: https://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/parenting-siblings-school?preview=logged_out   Self-Care Ideas: A couple of times a year-- go visit a float tank. Drink Sole in the morning.  Mary uses this salt. Walk barefoot outside early in the day     Family Fun Idea: Get out of your home-- Listen to the same podcast, audiobook, music together.  20 Questions Jedi Mind Trick of the Best Moment together in the last month.      Join the Finish the Book Community Starting August 31!   Keep the conversation going on Instagram:   https://www.instagram.com/everyday_runner_christy/