25. Can We Really Forgive and Forget?

In this episode of the Growing Hearts Podcast, Father Sam explores the deeply human and deeply divine reality of forgiveness. He talks about why forgiveness is so central to the Christian faith, why it can feel so hard, and how it shapes our relationships — especially in family life. Father Sam shares personal reflections, gospel stories, and practical insights to help us see forgiveness not just as a duty, but as a path to healing and true freedom. Discussion Points: Why Forgiveness Is Necessary Without forgiveness, we remain tied to the people or events that hurt us, trapped in what Father Sam calls a "victim mentality." Forgiveness in the Christian Faith At the heart of Christianity is God's unconditional forgiveness, most powerfully shown on the cross. Christians are called to forgive without limits, because we have first been forgiven. Divine Forgiveness vs. Human Forgiveness God forgives fully, restores us completely, and forgets our sins because of His love. Human forgiveness can be incomplete; we often struggle to truly let go. The Role of Feelings and the Challenge of Letting Go Forgiveness isn't always about feeling ready; it's often a choice before it becomes a feeling. Sometimes people hold on to hurt because it gives a sense of identity or emotional power. Forgiveness in the Family The home is the first place children learn what forgiveness looks like. True forgiveness in families includes mercy and helping each other grow into better people. Parents shouldn't fear hurting their kids by setting expectations — children need to see love, joy, and a call to something greater. Join the Conversation Forgiveness isn't just about forgetting or excusing what happened — it's about choosing freedom and love over resentment. Father Sam invites us to see forgiveness not as a one-time decision, but as a process that draws us closer to God and makes us more like Him. Reflect on these questions and share your thoughts with us: When have I experienced real forgiveness — either giving or receiving — and how did it change me? What does forgiveness look like in my family? Do we make space for both mercy and growth? How can I help my children — or those around me — experience forgiveness as something healing and hopeful? We'd love to hear your stories. Share your reflections and keep the conversation going with us! You can: Follow us on Instagram @growingheartspodcast Find out more about the Pared Foundation: visit our website Discover our schools by visiting: pared.edu.au/openday Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW so you don't miss out on any of our future episodes