25: Getting Honest About Your Addiction

Today we’re going to talk about something that I have been historically very bad at - both during and after my addiction to porn. It’s honesty and accountability. This is something I’ve been working a lot on in my own personal recovery - getting more REAL and honest with myself, God, and others about my pain, my feelings, my insecurities. It’s what  I teach my clients to do in my porn addiction recovery program. Not being “honest” from a place of self-pity, victimhood, or superiority. But from a place of humility, openness, and vulnerability. When we’re an addict, we can get in the habit of telling lies. And most of those lies may not look that bad - they’re justifications, rationalizations, half-truths, stretching the truth. They’re defenses, or even “standing up for ourselves” when we think we’ve been wronged. These lies are not just about our pornography addiction. They’re about everything - mostly about those things that cause us to feel:ShameFearInsecurityInadequacyTo overcome porn addiction, we’ve got to start being HONEST with ourselves, God, and others about these feelings. We need to stop hiding from them, and start leaning into them and moving through them with our Savior Jesus Christ. “Honesty comes from seeing and accepting things as they really are. Accepting that I need God’s help, that He can help me, and that I am worthy of saving. When I start lying, being deceitful, or diving into my addiction it is because I don’t want to accept reality. The reality of my pain, my insecurity, and that God is always available to guide me through.” - Anonymous You can break free of porn addiction, my friend. But first you must learn to be honest and open in every part of your life. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire