25: Shari James | Treating Erectile Dysfunction

Welcome back to Dating Mechanics on Girls Chase! Today we feature a show in development for quite some time with my first female guest – Shari James – who runs a successful coaching practice based out of Los Angeles, CA called Architecture of Pleasure to help men resolve Erectile Dysfunction. Podcast Highlights: 1:50 – Introduction to Shari James, her mission in treating Erectile Dysfunction. 4:15 – Shari explains how she started her business Architecture of Pleasure as a result of a history in stripping. 7:10 – Stripping and dancing was a freedom of expression for Shari – and it pulled guys into her 9:10 – Women don’t give men enough time to talk – and Shari trained herself to give men space to be emotional. 10:40 – Shari’s journey leads her into the erotic arts and tantric massage. 13:20 – Shari’s path takes her to offering sexual healing to men, women, and couples. 15:50 – Shari wants to take the suffering out of ED for men and to educate men on sexuality and healing, using her 26 years of experience with them. 17:40 – The five branches of the sexual system: the emotional/mental issues, the circulatory system, the nervous system, sexual energy, and being state. All five cause erectile dysfunction. 19:40 – Step #1: Release Heavy Emotions. 21:40 – Men have an inner hard-on. Men’s sexual center connects with the heart – and when men have inner pain, it blocks their inner hard-on, which blocks their outer hard-on. 23:40 – Men stop having sex to emotionally distance themselves from women in relationships, too, sometimes pre-breakup. 25:30 – Shari talks about men who need to have an emotional connection in order to have sexual desire and a hard-on for a woman. 28:00 – We talk about how to understand and deal with emotional issues that cause ED. 30:40 – Case study with a client who was in an abusive relationship with a woman. 32:50 – Step #2: Increase Circulation. 35:20 – We talk about nitric oxide and how it works towards a healthy sexual function. 37:50 – Shari shares her case study of helping a man in his 60s whose circulation was compromised by diabetes, which caused ED. 39:50 – Step #3: Decrease Stress and Retrain the Nervous System. 42:10 – Most men operate full time in a sympathetic nervous system mode – which actually inhibits their erections. 45:00 – Men don’t carry over meditation mindsets into their daily life, which contributes to ED. 47:00 – Shari shares her case study of a stressed-out business owner, and how she helped him manage his stress to fix his erectile dysfunction. 48:40 – Common medical practice is to isolate ED, when actually it’s linked to a greater body system. 49:50 – Step #4: Harness Sexual Energy. 51:50 – Women get more energy from orgasms while men lose energy from ejaculations and feel tired. 53:50 – When men have morning wood, everything fixes, or has fixed, itself. 54:40 – Case study of a guy in his 40s in a great marriage who wasn’t getting aroused with his wife. 57:25 – Step #5: Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction. Listen online: https://www.girlschase.com/content/shari-james-treating-erectile-dysfunction-podcast LEARN SOMETHING GOOD? SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW! If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review. This helps us reach more ears, and casts your vote for “Yes! Make more episodes!”