251. The Danger of Autopilot in Relationships

What if the reason you keep ending up in draining relationships has nothing to do with what's wrong with you — and everything to do with how your brain operates?In this episode, I break down discernment — the skill that transforms every relationship in your life, from your marriage to your friendships to how you co-parent with your ex. Here's the truth: your brain runs on autopilot. It creates shortcuts for everything — including the people closest to you. And when those shortcuts go unchecked, you stop seeing people for who they are. You start operating from a script that was written for you long before you were born.It goes deeper than biology. From childhood, women get trained to override their own reality. "He's pulling your hair because he likes you." Sound familiar? That messaging doesn't stop in grade school. It follows you into your marriage, your dating life, and your friendships. It teaches you to reframe harm as love and to silence your own experience.I share my own story of trying to wake up from autopilot during my first marriage — and the painful responses I received when I started asking real questions. Breaking free from the script is messy. But staying plugged in has a cost too.Discernment means slowing down, removing the filters, and backing yourself up on your own experience. No shame. No self-blame. Just clarity.If something in your life feels off — if what you're giving never matches what you're getting back — this episode is your invitation to start asking real questions.Ready to get off autopilot in your relationships? Schedule a coaching consultation with me at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment.