252: What If Emotional Regulation Isn’t the Goal? - Signs You Are Ready for the Next Phase

Most of us have been taught there are only two ways to handle emotions: either you're "regulated" and in control, or you're a hot mess on an emotional rollercoaster. Of course, given those choices, we're all going to try to be regulated. No one wants to feel like they're constantly reactive or creating drama.So we learn all the tools—breathing techniques, exercise, meditation, or prayer.   Maybe we turn to some Netflix binges or late-night scrolling sessions, as well. We get really good at calming ourselves down when intensity hits. Learning to pause instead of react and developing ways to cool down in heated moments—these are valuable life skills that can save relationships and careers.The problem with stopping our emotions there is that we don’t learn how to channel this energy to transform us to remember who we truly are. Or worse yet, we don’t understand that your feelings serve a bigger purpose and in learning to turn them down, we’ve actually turned away from trusting ourselves.  Key Takeaways Include:The phases that are next after you have learned how to take responsibility for how you feel and why they are an important next step.The most common signs you are ready to move beyond emotional regulationWhy the "control vs. chaos" narrative keeps us stuck and distrusting ourselvesHow to recognize when your regulation strategies are actually keeping you from growthThe reality of what this next phase is like and how it is preparing us to yield our power consciously and with love.Join me as I explore what might be possible when we move beyond the control-versus-chaos narrative and discover how we are meant to channel this divinely given power to live fully, freely, and lovingly from our Truth.Make sure you subscribe to my newsletter, where I share journal prompts and embodiment exercises to anchor in deeper insights from each episode.  Join here: https://michellebersell.com/subscribe/