259. "We’re worth $1.5M but I refuse to buy new pants"

Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Mikaela and Dave, both in their early thirties, parents of two young children, and earning an impressive $278,000 a year. Despite a net worth nearing $1.5 million, they struggle to spend money, even on necessities. Mikaela wears clothes with holes, and Dave sits in an uncomfortable chair, all rooted in a scarcity mindset developed from past challenges and recent life events. Ramit helps them explore their money beliefs, encouraging them to redefine their rich life beyond just accumulating wealth. In this episode we uncover: • Their surprising net worth of nearly $1.5 million in their early thirties • Mikaela's struggle to replace workout leggings with holes, even when she can afford it • Dave’s discomfort with his office chair despite working from home • The recent health scares that have frozen their spending decisions • Why Mikaela still views money through a lens of scarcity despite their wealth • The shocking realization of their actual household income versus their perception • The invisible labor dynamics in their financial management • Mikaela's childhood experiences with financial stress and lack of fun • How past trauma and family loss continue to influence their spending habits • The challenge of transitioning from a "hoarder's mentality" to enjoying their money • Their vision for a Rich Life that includes travel and personal well-being • Ramit’s advice to ban the word "need" from their financial vocabulary ⏩ CHAPTERS (00:00:00) Introduction (00:03:08) Why they struggle to spend money (00:06:08) The impact of past health scares (00:14:00) What it means to be "frozen" (00:16:32) The origins of their frugal mindset (00:33:51) The shock of their true income (00:40:00) Rebuilding financial foundations (00:46:08) Mikaela's childhood and money lessons (00:52:19) The profound impact of family loss (01:06:00) Building an amazing relationship with money (01:14:38) How to get help from Ramit (01:16:40) Reimagining the concept of "need" (01:19:15) The value of Mikaela's time (01:27:00) The invisible labor in financial planning (01:31:00) Ramit's challenge for Dave to initiate fun spending (01:35:10) Setting boundaries for family finances (01:37:00) Defining their rich life together (01:44:30) Ramit's parting advice This episode is brought to you by: Facet | As of the date of this recording, Facet is waiving the enrollment fee for new annual members, and for my audience, Facet is offering $300 into your brokerage account if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days. Head to facet.com/ramit to learn more about which membership option is best for you. Offer has been extended to 12/31/2026. #FacetAd Fabric by Gerber Life | Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at https://meetfabric.com/ramit Wildgrain | Get $30 off the first box — PLUS free Croissants for life — at https://wildgrain.com/ramit Wispr Flow | Try Wispr Flow for free at wisprflow.ai/ramit Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit  • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTubeHave you or your partner fallen for a scam? Maybe gotten bad financial advice from someone who didn't keep their promises? If so, I want to talk. Apply to be on my podcast at https://iwt.com/apply