26. The I Statement S*it Sandwich and What to Do Instead!

Are you using "I statements" as a cheat sheet to dump your feelings on your partner?Having the tool of owning your feelings only works if you use it properly – otherwise, it breaks something. In this episode, I offer a psychological insight for us all to snack on and ask if we are really using the "I statement" appropriately. We will look at how to talk without triggering each other, and the difference between owning your personal feelings effectively and simply using the sh*t sandwich that can be the "I statement" to project your feelings onto others. This episode also contains the reminder that if you’re not having the goal of connection and greater understanding with your partner, then no amount of "I statements" is going to get you there. Over 90% of communication is non-verbal, so your body language might be saying something completely different too! Please join me, Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy, as we explore healthy ways to get your feelings heard and your needs met. In This Episode:[3:35] What is an "I statement"?[4:42] How to disagree while maintaining a connection[5:32] If you use the tool for the wrong purpose, you break something[6:59] Talking without triggering[7:52] The other side of the sh*t sandwich[12:11] Focus on the bigger goal of connection, which also means tolerating discomfort Resource:Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair