26- The Mental Load Grief

Send a DM to Angela directly! Share your comments, feedback and feels. In this episode, I talk about the grief that comes from years of carrying the mental load and being told it is not real, even when the household runs on that invisible labor. I dive into how a role swap 14 years into our marriage   brings relief and also resurfaces anger, sadness, and the work of rebuilding trust in ourselves. • juggling an aging parent, school changes, and the weight of future planning • how camping trips unexpectedly trigger old grief about labor imbalance • what our current parenting and work arrangement looks like with three kids • why the role swap happened and what it reveals about responsibility • the repeat cycle of defensiveness and feeling gaslit over household labor • why acknowledgment matters and how it protects trust and dignity • concrete examples of invisible labor, emotional labor, and cognitive load • books and research that validate the gendered mental load gap • repairing trust with my partner and rebuilding trust in my own perception • what I want to explore next about breaking the endless proving loop  Come follow me on instagram @MentalLoadCoach and subscribe to my newsletter here. Schedule a free consult with me for my group coaching programs:1) If you are the primary mental load carrier, click here2) if you are the partner of the mental load owner, click here