27: Franco Lombardi | Gauging a Woman’s Comfort on Dates

Today once again I feature Franco, with whom I’ve done several podcasts. We met up in San Diego over New Years and talked about a girl’s comfort on dates, which is a sticking point I had late last year, where it was difficult to tell how comfortable a girl was on a date, which made it tough to move things forward. Franco always tells me about his excellent track record on dates, as he was closing 9 out of 10 girls he would take on dates with him. What helps is his ability to gauge a girl’s comfort and where she is emotionally on a date. Knowing a girl’s comfort level and emotions are key in the moment, as this allows you to determine what you need to do to move a date forward toward intimacy – and very importantly, when. Girls also often give mixed signals to test a guy, and a good guy should know how to handle these tests as he moves the process along with a girl. In this podcast, we talk about how to determine a girl’s comfort level early on a date, the adjustments in vibe we need to make to make her more comfortable, the adjustments we should make if an emotion is too strong, how to determine when a girl is comfortable enough for touch and what type, when to start and escalate touch, how to use sexual touch when she’s comfortable, and how to close at the end of the date – whether it’s just going for the kiss or pulling her home. Podcast Details: 1:30 – Introduction to Franco and Varoon in San Diego on New Year’s Eve 2:00 – Girls want dates to go well, but they often give mixed signals, so the whole date is a bit of a test. Girls usually come into a date nervous, and this influences how it transpires. 3:20 – Varoon shares personal stories of how, for many years, he had great results approaching girls and getting them on dates, but had trouble gauging comfort and true emotions in the moment. 5:00 – Franco and Varoon talk about signs of a girl’s nervousness vs. comfort early into a date, why you want to make her feel comfortable as early as possible, and things she will do to indicate her state of mind. 7:30 – Varoon shares how he didn’t get a girl comfortable early on a date with him, and that made her eject by using “polite excuses.” This example shows how timing is key for date tech. 8:30 – How to elicit early comfort emotions and how to look for comfortable tangents for conversation 11:00 – A girl’s impression of the date is going to be based on her emotions, as she’s already showing interest in a guy by going on the date. 13:00 – A man’s job on a date is to make adjustments in vibe to make her more comfortable. He can make her laugh more, use the one compliment rule, or use sex talk and sexual tension. 15:00 – We talk about how to calibrate sex talk on a date, and the key to make sure she’s not in her “stiff” phase before talking about sex. 17:30 – The role of touch on a date, and how to touch early on, when to start touch, and when to escalate touch. 19:30 – How to transition into sex talk, and the kinds of sex talk used. 20:00 – Franco shares how he uses sex talk and touch together, how girl’s react, and how to gauge comfort during sex talk. 22:30 – Recap of the date sequence to make a girl comfortable, and how stiffness is a tell-tale sign for a girl. 24:30 – Varoon shares a story he overheard of a guy kissing a girl at the wrong moment, and how girls are super socially attuned. 27:00 – We discuss kissing at the end of a first date, and whether or not to kiss a girl. Franco shares how to leave a girl wanting more with a kiss. How to deliver the perfect kiss. 31:00 – How to end a first date with a pull-away kiss, and using it for sexual tension. Listen online: https://www.girlschase.com/content/franco-lombardi-gauging-woman-s-comfort-level-dates-podcast LEARN SOMETHING GOOD? SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW! If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review. This helps us reach more ears, and casts your vote for “Yes! Make more episodes!”