27. Stop Abandoning Yourself - You Are Not The Problem

The Cost of Abandoning Yourself - Why You Still Feel UnseenFeelings You Can Trust - Episode 27Sometimes the reason you feel unseen…is because you’ve been abandoning yourself to belong.In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we explore identity, safety, and what it really means to feel aligned in your relationships and community.Through our first listener letter, we talk about what happens when you don’t feel accepted — even in spaces that are supposed to understand you — and why you don’t have to force yourself to “cope” in environments that don’t feel safe.We also unpack the difference between social identity and your true, spirit-based identity, and how abandoning yourself to meet expectations can keep you stuck in survival mode.Because real belonging doesn’t require you to shrink.⏱️ Chapters00:00 – Life update: grief, growth & showing up anyway03:05 – Mental load, EMDR & processing06:57 – Proof of Life: good news still exists08:48 – Listener Letter: feeling unseen in community12:00 – You don’t have to cope in unsafe spaces14:00 – Inner circle standards & safe relationships16:18 – Social identity vs. true self20:13 – Building aligned community22:44 – How identity keeps you in survival31:04 – You are not your career34:58 – Stop abandoning yourself📚Books Mentioned:📖 The Princess and the P.I. by Skye Warren — A romance that explores trust, vulnerability, and connection between two very different worlds.📖 Deep End by Allie Hazelwood — A contemporary romance centered on consent, communication, and emotionally safe intimacy.📖 Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker — A mindset-focused guide on how your beliefs about money shape your financial reality.📩 Want to submit a listener letter?Email: [email protected]🎧 Available on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify & SubstackDisclaimerI am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared in this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and self-development purposes only and should not replace professional mental health support. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com