#271: What If Showing Up Authentic Destroys My Relationship?

from Therapy Brothers · host Reclaim Your Heart

Caller Pete's Question: "I feel like many of the recent podcast have been directed at me. I am in recovery from sexual addiction. I have recently been released from probation and now have 10 years of sex offender registration. My wife had stayed with me through most of it, but left me after I let her down on my commitment to give up a hobby. I struggle with her boundary around that hobby as I don't see any direct relation to my addiction and the trauma I'm sure that she's been through. She took our kids and moved states away and we really do not talk anymore. I have struggled with my recovery since she left. I have a lot of resentment towards her for this, but I also feel a ton of shame around my actions, and our separation. She has set a boundary asking me to give up this hobby (collectible "toy" cars), and I am having difficulty committing to this. With our separation we have both anchored ourselves further in our ideas. What can I do at this point to work on repairing our relationship...…?" // SUBMIT A QUESTION + CALL IN // We'd love to answer questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, relationships, and healing. Ask Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.therapybros.com/call-in-and-ask-a-question/⁠⁠⁠⁠ // Tyler Patrick LMFT | "The Wandering Therapist" // Free Consultation Call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/consultation-call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love Strong | Experience Therapy: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ // Brannon Patrick LCSW | "The Expert" // Brannon's Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brannonpatrick.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Therapy Utah: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://therapyutah.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ // COURSES // The Healing Journey: ⁠⁠https://join.reclaimyourheart.com/⁠⁠ Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brannonpatrick.com/Boundarybootcamp⁠⁠⁠⁠ Tyler's Pornography Addiction Recovery Kickstart: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/courses/overcome-pornography-addiction/⁠⁠⁠⁠ // EVENTS // Radiant Dawn | Women's Retreat: ⁠⁠https://radiantdawn.org⁠⁠ Rising Son | Men's Retreat: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://risingson.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ Vibrant Love | Couple's Retreat: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vibrantlove.org⁠⁠⁠ // Reclaim Your Heart // Join our new community for quality exclusive content, incredible courses, and real connection: ⁠⁠https://join.reclaimyourheart.com/⁠ 00:00 - Intro 00:20 - Texas Trip Recap 03:28 - Hangover and Emotional Moments 07:15 - Guest Intro (Pete's Background) 12:45 - Marriage and Addiction Struggles 20:10 - Intensified Recovery Efforts 26:15 - Repeated Relationship Patterns 29:40 - Exploring Hobby Issue 32:50 - Struggles with Authenticity 36:05 - Brandon's Perspective 40:18 - Tyler's Insights 45:00 - Pete's Daily Routine 48:30 - Conclusion and Thanks