279: How to Tell If You've Become Too Expensive to Advocate For

Sean Barnes opens up about a tough lesson from his own leadership career. He had a high performing team member who could deliver on anything but couldn't escape his own negativity. Over time, Sean realized he had quietly stopped pulling this person into key meetings, not because of skill, but because the negative energy was becoming a liability. In this episode, Sean unpacks why advocacy goes silent for talented leaders, the three reasons it happens, and the diagnostic questions every director, VP, and senior leader should be asking themselves right now. He also gets honest about his own early career missteps and what it actually takes to shift from being the smartest person in the room to the leader people want in the room.   Key Moments 00:00 - The frustrating reality of getting passed over again 00:24 - Why good leaders advocate for you, and what they're really watching for 00:58 - The story of the rock star who couldn't escape his own negativity 02:29 - The subtle moment Sean realized he had stopped including him in meetings 04:11 - Reason 1: You became the expert instead of the leader 06:18 - Reason 2: You're politically miscalibrated 09:10 - Reason 3: You became too expensive to advocate for 10:54 - Three questions to ask yourself right now 13:05 - The last question: who are your three VP advocates? 15:01 - Sean's own struggle with this early in his career 15:54 - The mindset shift that changes everything   Key Takeaways Negativity quietly disqualifies you, even when your work is excellent. Sean's story makes it clear. You can be a rock star performer and still get tucked away in a corner if your energy makes leaders look bad by association. Advocacy is not just about skill. It's about whether your boss wants their name attached to yours. Politics is not manipulation; it's reading the room. Most directors hate the political game and refuse to play, which is exactly what keeps them stuck. Understanding what motivates your peers, who has influence, and how to help others win is not selling out. It's leadership. You can't control them, only yourself. When you walk into every situation thinking they are the problem, you cap your own ceiling. The shift happens when you start asking what you can do, what problems you can solve, and how you can make everyone around you look good.   Podcast Show Notes – Episode 279 | 04.28.2026 Episode Title: How to Tell If You've Become Too Expensive to Advocate For   Host: Sean Barnes Website: https://www.wolfexecutives.com   https://www.seanbarnes.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seanbarnes/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/wolfexecutives https://www.linkedin.com/company/thewayofthewolf/ LinkedIn Newsletter: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7284600567593684993/   Twitter: https://x.com/seanbarnes https://x.com/wolfexecutives   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_seanbarnes https://www.instagram.com/wolfexecutives   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_seanbarnes   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theseanbarnes