279 - What If The Bravest Thing Is To Keep Showing Up?

Some stories punch through the fog. Palmer’s does. He grew up inside a decade of high-conflict divorce, became the “targeted child” of severe alienation, and reached the edge of despair—then found a way back. Today he sits across from tweens and teens as a therapist, turning hard-won insight into practical tools that help kids feel safe, seen, and strong even when the adults around them are at war.We dig into the subtle ways alienation teaches kids it’s unsafe to love both parents and the everyday moves that reverse it. Palmer shows how to respond when your child repeats a hostile script, how to validate feelings without validating lies, and how to use calm curiosity to keep the door open: “Tell me more. Where did you hear that? What do you think?” We talk about the “long game” of trust, why one attuned parent can buffer long-term harm, and how steady presence beats the most artful parenting plan. You’ll hear research that matters—father involvement predicting outcomes, safe-base parenting supporting brain development—and simple practices you can use this week.Palmer's website: https://ownyourjourneycoaching.com/Care For The Kids website: https://careforthekid.com/about/Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTbJoin The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out in this quiz - http://www.thedivorceddadvocate.com/divorce-quiz.html*FREE Dads Guide To Divorce* How to survive and thrive during and after divorce: http://www.dadsguidetodivorce.comDon't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - schedule a time directly into my schedule at www.TalkWithJude.com.Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/Other Resources:The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.comThe Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBpThe Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/The Divorced Dadvocate Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/thedivorceddadvocate/Support the show Support the showBeing unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com.Access your tactical tools:Weekend Visitor Risk Assessment (TheDivorceQuiz.com): Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Strategic Risk Consultation (TalkWithJude.com): Book a private triage to ensure your mistakes don’t become your permanent reality.Your kids are counting on you.