#28 - Conflicted - Book Summary

Hey wise people, we’re back! Sorry its taken us so long to upload another book summary, you know how it is, exam season, summer, and all these endless bank holidays. But no need to worry, we’re back and looking to stay on track. To start you off we’ve summarised Conflicted by Ian Leslie which takes a refreshing new view of arguing, stating that we need to argue and have conflict now and then as it helps to bring us closer together, inspire us, and even improve our intelligence. The book is split into two key sections, why we should argue, and the nine rules of arguing productively. Jes and I touch on each one of these points throughout the episode, elaborating on them and drawing parallels with previous books we’ve read. If you like what you hear, make sure to follow or subscribe depending on what platform you use, or alternatively just drop us a like or a comment, we always love to hear from our listeners. Our next book is ‘Influence’ by Robert Cialdini, a real classic amongst communication books, so make sure to stay tuned for that. But until then, have a good one. ------------------- Chapters: 00:00:00-Intro 00:01:00-PART 1: Why We Argue 00:02:16-High and Low Context Environments 00:04:17-Social Media and Arguments 00:09:10-GIFS, Memes and Emojis 00:22:55-Culture and Arguments 00:28:00-Opposing Viewpoints (Synergy) 00:37:49-Strangers, Friends, and Family 00:42:45-Media and Arguments 00:45:07-Levels of Arguing (Content and Relationship) 00:48:45-Challenge vs Threat 00:52:33-The Evolution of Reason 00:55:20-PART TWO: How To Argue - Nine Rules of Productive Arguing 00:55:22-Rule 1: First, Connect 00:58:50-Rule 2: Let Go of the Rope 01:01:19-Rule 3: Give Face 01:03:08-Rule 4: Check Your Weirdness 01:06:02-Rule 5: Be Curious 01:08:28-Rule 6: Make Wrong Strong 01:11:49-Rule 7: Disrupt the Script 01:14:22-Rule 8: Share Constraints 01:16:02-Rule 9: Only Get Mad on Purpose 01:20:00-Golden Rule: Be Real 01:21:00-Principles 01:28:14-Techniques 01:34:21-Summary If you enjoyed this podcast make sure to check out our other content on our other platforms: - Website: https://wisewords.blog/ - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisewords.blog/ - Twitter: https://twitter.com/wisewordsblog - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WiseWordsBlog If you enjoyed this podcast make sure to check out our other content on our other platforms: Website: https://wisewords.blog/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisewords.blog/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/wisewordsblog Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WiseWordsBlog