28 Jem Estilla: When to Stay and When to Let Go pt.1 💕 😩

In this episode of Integrated Awakenings, we have a special guest Jem Estilla to talk about “When to Stay and When to Let Go” a special episode that explores difficult choices around relationships, and asks when the “hard” relationship is truly toxic, a lesson, or maybe even something transcendent. This podcast covers a wide range of ideas, like uncovering what you’re actually fighting about, our primary relationship to self, shame around being single, and even models of love around queerness, devotion and community.! we also code-switch in and out of tagalog for this ep with translationsCheck out what else we cover:our primary relationship with ourselves, responsibilityrelationship cords, retracting energyhow to choose a relationship that’s not trauma bonding? when we are attracted to generational curseslearning what your “Love” is likebeing aware of our needs, and other’s the “transaction/exchange” of a relationshipcapitalist trauma around receiving, “deserving something”salsa dancing and am i good feminist if i follow well?respecting each other’s freedom and responsibilityhonest question: do i want to dance by myself or be in relation?going to the core of your hook, what am i actually talking about? “i love you, i give up on you”What is love: is proximity love? how can space?! be love?discerning how to be allied to the totality of the person (beyond the relationship)option 3: simmering, timing? letting a situation maturefemme/masc frequencies paradoxical difference in needshealing the patriarchy: integrating both sides, models of spiritualitybeing single, how am i this happy?women being programmed to have partnersaro/ace, the real option of no relationship to have a yesdirectionless devotion and love“you’re not loving cause you don’t have a partner”freeing love: when am i allowed to be “in love”/“falling in love”“wholeness”, the comfort of self-patholigizing“i feel okay?” = is this demotivation? depression?what is “success” relationally, life-wisewhat if we’re worthy now?: can we make creativity from a place of freedom?create not from pain? not from neuroticism? what if i run out of spite?what if everything is a manifestation of love? everything is your lover? : highwisdom/sage path vis a vis lover/drunk“its not even malicious” vs when we try to hook/diminish othersheart chakra, romanticism, how the heart sanctifies100% involvement 0% enmeshment, hookless, checkboxeswhat if i run out of shadow to create from? (examples with comedians etc)------If you appreciate this kind of work send tips here: paypal ,You can support monthly here: patreon (this also has a library of game writing)Book private sessions here: calendlyDM Instagram Page, FacebookEmailmariamison.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.