#28 When Coaching Replaces Therapy: Why “Let Them” Is Concerning for People-Pleasers

In this episode, I take a clear stance on a growing problem in the mental health space: the flattening of psychological nuance on social media and the rise of coaching-style advice being delivered as if it were therapy. Using the Let Them concept and recent high-profile commentary around family estrangement as examples, I unpack why this kind of advice is not just oversimplified - but concerning and potentially harmful for people with unresolved stress, trauma, and people-pleasing or fawning patterns.I explain the real difference between therapy and coaching, why they are not interchangeable, and how advice that assumes agency, choice, and internal safety can destabilise nervous systems that are still organised around survival. This is not an anti-coaching episode - it’s a conversation about capacity, ethics, and why trauma-informed, clinically grounded work matters.This episode is for midlife women who have tried mindset shifts, boundaries, and empowerment frameworks - and still feel stuck - and for anyone wanting a more honest conversation about what actually supports healing.