281. I grew up in this relationship and lost myself in it: Who am I without him?

On this weeks bestie advice segment we're sitting with a listener who's been in the same relationship since she was 16. She's 27 now, two kids, and she's realising she's never actually been an adult on her own. She does everything for that house  the cooking, the cleaning, the work, the school runs, the love, the effort and gets none of it back. When she tries to speak up she's shut down, avoided, or somehow turned into the villain. Now there's a girl from her old job showing up on his phone and she doesn't know what to do. Bestie, before we talk about him, we need to talk about you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.