Welcome to the Old Souls and Seekers Podcast brought to you by Satori Prime. If you're anything like us, you've been around and around the personal development and mindset block quite a few times. You've read the books, watched the videos, attended the seminars, and even worked with a coach or two, and yet you still find yourself searching for more. You may even feel stuck or that you should be farther along than where you are right now.
And after doing over a decade of mindset work, we've come to this realization. Mindset work is like a small hit of dopamine that distracts you from your true work. You get these little hits of feeling better, only to be met with the same underlying conditions and patterns over and over again. Mindset was an important part of your evolution as well as ours, but it hits a plateau, and now you find yourself ready for that deeper layer of growth and expansion.
If you're listening to this podcast, then you're ready to get off that Ferris wheel. This podcast is only for those that are ready to dive deep and do the real inner healing work. For those that are ready to move past more information into actual experiences. If you're looking for more understanding, then you've come to the wrong place.
This is a home for Old Souls, ready to fully embrace and remember who they truly are, ready to make a profound difference in their lives and in the lives of others. So welcome home, dear one. We're excited to be part of your journey. So as people are popping in here, I'll do a quick intro, especially if you are a new TAR community.
We're growing by leaps and bounds on a weekly basis. So if you're meeting me for the first time, my name is Guy Ferris-Minn. Usually on these calls, you'll have both myself and Elon. Let me show you the check box up there so you guys can see all this stuff coming through.
Usually you'll have myself and my brother on here, Elon, is a little under the weather and dealing with a fever. So he is choosing to rest up quite smartly. If you're here, and this community is all about your development, personal development, mindset development, and very importantly, the near and dear work to mine, Elon's hearts these days is more of the practices and the energy and awareness space. We'll talk a lot about why those are really, really critically important.
And for those of you guys who have been around the mindset development space for a long time, I'll talk about some of the limitations of that and why if you actually include what you're doing already or bolting onto the mindset space and you add energy and awareness to any sort of therapeutic or habituation type of practices, you're going to see an astronomical and exponential growth curve in terms of your own development and healing. And so we are very interested in not just people learning how to manage and cope and re-habituate, although all those are very, very important. We're actually extraordinarily interested in what we teach dynamically here is how you get to the stuff that's underneath the mindset, stuff that we can retrain and really get under the energetics, the sensational, the subtle stuff that's happening inside the system that is then lending itself to your mind, having a certain type of response. And so we'll talk a lot about that today.
So if you're here, hopefully you're here to better yourself, whether that's in your relationships and your relationship to yourself or others, whether that's in your business or entrepreneurial journey, if you're a coach or a consultant or anything like that, or if you're just a curious growth seeker in all those cases, you are in the perfect place. So it's up to any and good to have you. So one more thing before I get going on today's topic, if you are new to the community and you want to immediately kind of cut your teeth, so to speak, I hate that terminology, I don't know why I used it, but you want to cut your teeth on the training that we do here and you actually want to start practicing the things I just mentioned around energetics, awareness and how to couple that with mindset, so that you're not just again, managing coping but actually healing. The primary tool we have for you in this community is what we call our active healing meditation.
And if you want that, then you just want to type in meditation in the comment box below right now. And then we have people from our team like Tobias, Sarah, Corey, Jasmine, Nikki, all these people are in this group on a regular basis here to support this community. With your growth journey, should you have any questions? You want some guidance?
You want to know about the type of programs that we do here at the more advanced levels? If you decide to do that with us, those are the people that you want to be setting up conversations with or asking, but if you want that meditation now, again, like these people are starting to type in their lecormono and Lisa, just type in meditation yourself and then they will find those comments and they will get those resources over to you. We highly, highly, highly recommend if you're going to take that on here. Interimently, we do meditation challenges here in the community, but you really don't need us to prompt you to do a challenge, although it's always fun to do things in a community structure.
We do recommend that you take on a habit, you know, they say 21 days to create a habit and do this meditation for a number of reasons. Number one, it's going to give you a fundamental understanding of what it is that we do here, not from an understanding point of view, but from an experiential point of view, because it's all well and good if you understand concepts, that's great. It's just not going to help you ultimately. What changes lives or transforms people's lives is a direct experience that they have.
So you want to grapple with these things. And so even if you've done meditation in the past and you're like, this is not for me, I don't know how to quiet my mind. Don't worry about that. This is not that kind of meditation.
In fact, in my opinion, having meditated for about a decade now, you've got really intense experiences with it. Meditation is not about quieting the mind at all. That's a nice by-product that you sometimes get for meditation. This certainly should not be the goal.
We want to learn how to sit with our active mind. We want to learn how to work with the parts inside of our system. And this is actually what enables and unleashes your ability to heal and build this kind of confidence within yourself that you can deal with any situation that life throws at you. A lot of people do coaching, do personal development, because they want to change their circumstances.
I totally get that. It's kind of hard to dismiss this aspect of ourselves that wants our circumstances to get better. However, there is the confidence of the confidence that most of us portray in the world. And then there's confidence in knowing that you could be with any circumstance in your life, not because you like the circumstance, but because you become so confident with your own ability to feel through what circumstances ultimately stimulate our bodies with.
So what does that mean? That means that a lot of us deal with circumstances. And what we really don't like is, yeah, the circumstance sucks maybe, but what we don't like is the feeling in our body. We don't like this resonance and discomfort.
And there's a part of us that's at war with that discomfort. And so the retraining really, and what healing is, is that when that, if you can be with awareness and that sensation arises in your body and you no longer are in a fight with it, you just surrender to it. This energy can move in and out of your body and the fluid nature and doesn't get caught. We'll talk a lot about that today.
What that means for healing and how do we enable this kind of human superpower that we all have. And so that is true confidence when you're no longer scared of sensations in your body, truly. And if you really think about what most of us spend our money and time on and all these different things, ultimately when we're trying to acquire is not a circumstance, it's such an inner experience. You know, whether you go by something physical in this world and you get that dopamine hit or you go get an experience, what you really care about is your inner experience.
And so we want to get really related to the fact that our conditioning at the whole of society for the most part is very externally focused. We're constantly looking how to change our external circumstances. Most to train, you'll get from most coaches is that it perform better to change your circumstances. This like very visceral, masculine approach to like controlling and changing and altering your reality and bending it to your will and all this kind of crazy shift, which is cool.
And I've done that for many years and I can tell you that's all an illusion, like no one can control the reality. No one knows what today's gonna bring or tomorrow's gonna bring. So ultimately the real piece, the real healing comes from being able to actually turn within and learn how to actually work your system, like this intelligence that lives within us is the most critical thing that anything that anybody in my opinion can learn. And I've been saying this a lot recently, but I want to reiterate it here, which is most of us spend probably 12 to 16 years of education in school.
It would have been very beneficial if we would have spent the first part of that education learning how to actually educate ourselves, meaning like how you actually study, like learn how to study, you know, learn how to do those kind of things. And secondly, here we are in this meat soup machine inside here. I don't think we can argue that there's some kind of awareness and consciousness that we are demonstrating energy and motion on a regular basis, our world, you know, even from a scientific quantum physics point of view, from a spiritual point of view, is just energy and vibration and frequency and motion. And yet, now a minute, not a second, not a moment of time in school and our upbringing and our spent learning about how to actually work or understand that machinery.
And that's insane. And then one of the missions of this company is to alter that is to give this education to people to understand that there's really nothing wrong with you. It's just that there's a certain conditioning that's been applied on the human mind, on the human spirit right now. And that's driven our society in a certain direction.
We have very much a world built by the mind today with lacking a lot of heart. I think most people would agree on this point if you don't, that's fine. And it's not just about bringing in heart, it's about really like coming back into ourselves and into our eternal experience and understanding how to work with that, so that the divine intelligence that works within us and through us can present itself in a new way in your life. And again, that can mean godliness to you, that can mean connecting with the universe, that can mean just connecting with all of it.
But to us, it's just connecting back with your own intelligence, connecting back with awareness itself. And so today, going into today's topic, I wrote a question, are you growing up? Are you waking up? And so I want to create a distinction for you guys if you will allow me.
So we understand the approach that most of the personal development space is taking, and then a distinct switch that we get to make that you and I have made over the last six, seven years or so, in terms of the type of teachings that have been brought to our space, type of teachings that we now do with our personal clients, in our events, in our long-term programs, in order to facilitate this new transformation, this new evolution that's coming to humanity, which is really stopping to be an externally focused society and recognizing that the external view that we're having, this reality, this organic hologram that we're all experiencing, is nothing more than the mirroring effect of the vibration inside your body. And so if we're going to do transformative work, it's not about changing our story, although that helps to degree, because there's some therapeutic reasons to do that. But ultimately, it's like, what is vibrating this frequency that's inside of you is going to get mirrored into your reality. And so the thing you want to hopefully get curious about is you listen to me speak today, is, well, how do I change that frequency?
How do I ground that frequency? How does that frequency instead of emanating fear and worry and scarcity and lack, it starts emanating connection and abundance and well-being? And if I'm emanating those qualities into the greater field, into this organic hologram, then the question I have for you is do you believe that by emanating that frequency, and you could say yes in the chat box or no in the chat box if you agree or disagree? If I'm emanating those frequencies, will my reality begin to match those frequencies as easily as they match the frequencies of scarcity or fear or terror or a lot of the stuff that everybody that I've ever worked with is emanating because that's just how we have been brought to be conditioned in this world.
So I want to just pop in here and give you some distinctions around what it is I'm talking about. So if we are talking about growing up work, this is where most people are pretty well versed if they've done any sort of mindset development. By the way, I'm coining these terms from Ken Wilbur. If you've never read Ken Wilbur's work, it's thick to say the least.
He's got a great book. Excuse me, called Religions of Tomorrow. Even if you get on audio book, it's a 30-hour listen, so it's dense, it's thick. And I'll say if you get 5% of understanding of what he's talking about, you're doing pretty good, it's some pretty high level stuff in there.
And so he makes this distinction between growing up work and waking up work. We can also call this the vertical plane or the horizontal plane. So the mental plane is more this horizontal, linear thinking, progressive thinking. It's like there's sequences, here's how we get from step one to step two, and so on and so forth.
And then there's the vertical, which is more of the spiritual, the awareness, the energy, the awakening of consciousness itself. And so these are helpful to think about in two distinct paths of transformation and human liberation. Because ultimately, transformation to me, very cool to transform some state of being into another state of being. That's alchemy, human alchemy.
That's beautiful. However, transformation is right, but just because you transform something doesn't mean you're not going to struggle with that transformation. There's still maybe struggling in your life. Transformation does not obfuscate you from having difficult circumstances.
That's life. Life is a bit of a roller coaster of ups and downs. Even if you are the most enlightened being, my teacher, for example, is probably anyone I don't want to call anyone in life because I've never met an enlightened being. But he's one of the most enlightened people I've ever met in my life.
And over the last two years, he said some of the most difficult physical challenges in his life. Now he faces them with a lot of grace that most people will probably be depressed in that situation. Nonetheless, challenges of balance, challenges arise, people who are spiritual, that doesn't mean that they're never going to get upset again, never means that they're never going to do something out of integrity again. Like these are very young ideas.
And a lot of us, when we get into the developmental space, we think, oh, here's a teacher, they have to have, they have to have, you know, they need to be pure, they can't curse, they have to have ultimate integrity, they can't ever do anything wrong. And we'll project a lot of stuff on a person like that, same way that a child, and that's what I call a young, same way that a child projects on a parent, because they see this all knowing kind of being who's supposed to be perfect. And of course, the child ends up in disappointment, as they learn that the parent is not all knowing and perfect in every single way. And there's like a natural disappointment that arises there.
And here's the truth. None of us are perfect. We're all going through our ship. And life is throwing stuff out as sometimes we're prepared for and oftentimes that we're not.
And so again, coming back to this idea of growing up work, growing up work again is more in the, let me just get rid of this ticker on the bottom. Cool. So growing up work again is what most of you guys are probably well-versed in. It's mindset development.
It's the ability to take personal responsibility responsibility, by the way, distinct from fault and blame, meaning you're not shaming or blaming yourself. You understand that responsibility is not a matter of learning, figuring out who's to blame or finger pointing. It's just a matter of perception that that which is I am experiencing my life is being sourced through me. Okay.
And so like you kind of take this perspective that everything that happens is just being sourced from my field, from my perspective, and I can, oh, that's malleable and changeable as long as I'm seeing myself as the source of everything. Right. And so from seeing myself as a source, I'm always in a position of power. People who are stuck or often play with more victim mentality.
I certainly did that all for my teen years. I was dealing with depression and suicide. I know that mentality extremely well. It's an avoidance, defensive tactic.
And the worst part of it is you're putting yourself in a situation where you feel powerless to change anything in your life. Right. Because it's like, oh, this isn't me. It's something's happening to me.
I would never allow something to happen to me, but you'll often see this pattern with people who are stuck in that kind of mindset. Again, nothing wrong with it. Just a type of defense, a type of way of dealing and surviving with this world is that that well, it's not me. It's that over there.
It's that circumstance. It's just happening to me. If that wasn't happening, everything would be well and good. But if we always want to come back to, if there's if a person is dealing in their life with a lot of reenactment, they're seeing the same or similar type of circumstances or seeing the same or similar type of relationships, they're seeing the same or similar type of situations around money, it's useful, very, very, very useful to, sorry, I was reading a comment and answering in my mind, it's very useful then to say, you know what, I'm at the source of what's happening.
And then I feel like I can enact some change. I can perceive things differently. I can go clean this thing up in my life. I can re-habituate how I'm approaching things.
I can view such and such in different ways. And there's all sorts of different mechanical tools that you can do to the mind to bring it to a different state of awareness. Okay. So, that takes some re-habituation, right, of course.
The other aspects is that we have responsibility. There's things like integrity, like living your life from a really high level of integrity. This means honoring what you say at a very high level. So, if you give your word to something that you honor that word, all these different kind of things.
So, a lot of you guys know these kind of things, you know how to change your story, you know how to change your paradigm. And if you're like, I don't know how to do those things, that's totally fine, by the way, where all at different levels of learning, not better or worse, there are things in your life that you are super talented in, that I know nothing about, and vice versa. I've invested 20 years and between you and myself well over a million dollars in education, because for whatever reason, my consciousness is extremely curious about this stuff. I can never get enough of it, and so it's easy for me.
And so, what we do here as an organization is we try to take the best of everything we've learned over two decades from a variety of teachings, teachers, wisdoms, mystery schools, energy schools, psychologies and therapies, neuroscience, and we take all this and we're like, what's the most useful things that have brought significant changes in our lives, and that's what we share. That's what we share here. That's ultimately what the story prime is. So, that stuff is the growing up work, okay.
And if you guys have any questions on that, or please let me know. And if you're tracking that, you know, why don't you, on the mindset level, like, rate yourself, you know, on a scale of one to 10, like, how well versed in mindset are you? And the way that you know that you're well versed is when you're dealing with a difficult situation in your life, you know how to navigate that in a way that brings you back to an empowered, resourced place, and you know how to shift your experience so that you have a much more positive outcome. All right, so like, rate yourself on a scale of 10.
Again, if you're at a zero or a one, like, there's no shame in that we all start somewhere. Like I said, in my teenage years, I'm very lucky. I don't know, lucky or led to, I got led to transformative work at 19 years old, but seven years before that, it was hell on earth for me, you know, just constantly thinking about ending my life, suicide, how shitty the world is, nothing is fair, you know, like this really kind of dark mentality. And I had to, as many have had to dig their way out of that.
And today, I can talk about that like a, you know, like a dream that I woke up for woke up from a long time ago. And you know, it took me a lot, I spent 15 years around the kind of developmental work to really understand, like, how does somebody change these things? How do we communicate from a place that really affects two people and can transform a relationship out of somebody overcome very ingrained fears in their system, like all these different things are absolutely real, can definitely be worked with. And again, if you know nothing about that space, we do have programs for people who want to be in more of the minds at the developmental space.
And then we have a whole section of model that takes you up into awareness and energy and some of these much more fun, cooler things as well. But you know, in the beginning, if you've never learned these things, if you don't know that the little voice in your head is just a mechanism that the mind uses, it's not actually who you are, excuse me, it's actually who you are, you are actually the one listening to the little voice in your head, like that alone, that one single idea there, hopefully you kind of give it pretty fast, is lecture swearing. The moment you create some separation between you and what people call their mind or their thoughts that they're having, and again, I'll say this a little slower, recognize that those are not your thoughts, you are actually the observer or the listener that can listen to the thoughts. And so right there, we call that a subtle mind awareness, you become aware and a subtle way that you are the watcher, you are the listener of the inner mind, and we can do the same thing when it comes to energetics and awareness within the body as well.
Okay, and that's where we kind of go more into the waking up work. So hopefully if you're tracking what I'm talking about, the mindset growing up work, say I in the chat box, and I want you to know that like this is a, it's actually very profound that growing up work is here because it's relatively new to our society. There have been a lot of awakening awareness practices for thousands of years, and that's why we always say that, you know, Satori Prime is a blend of modern neuroscience and psychology and therapies blended with very ancient practices because waking up practices are very ancient, it's very old, I've been around forever, but people have been, it's most of us have not been able to find practical application for them. We think again, if like sit in the cave for 30 years and like give up all your possessions and like, that there may have been a time in humanity that's true, but we are now in a different kind of energy where it's like those teachings have come down from the mountains and from those places, and I could tell you from teaching this to thousands of people that there's absolutely extraordinarily practical applications.
And the real secret sauce here is when you cannot combine these two practices together. When you're doing growing up work and you have that foundation and you start including it with awareness and energy practices, I mean it's, it's a nice limit for you really. So one of the things that we have found with the growing up work is like even people who are really really really well developed with our mindset, there is a growing frustration that some people haven't recognized and are assisting in, so they keep pushing, trying to get into more mindset work. And what I mean by that is it's like, okay, well, I still haven't healed from that thing.
Well, I guess there's another process out there that I haven't done. I've got to do often process. I've got to do IFS. I've got to do this.
I've got to do that. And I'm like, oh man, I've been in that trap. And what we have found is here's what ends up happening. You just get a lot more information.
And if you like to read personal development books, you can correct me if I'm wrong, but after a while, and the beginning, it's amazing to read them. But after a while, they all kind of sound the same. Say, if you know what I'm talking about, it's like, they might use like different vernacular, they might even have a different distinction. But as they define what that distinction is, you're like, oh yeah, that sounds just like that thing.
And so we have this rehashing of information. People just coming up with new names for it. But it's really just the same old shit, because again, the principles of mindset development is like, there's a mechanism to it. Here's how you can understand it.
Yeah, we're evolving our understanding slowly a little bit at a time, but the fundamentals say the same. Your store, your mind is a story generating machine. Ultimately, where transformation happens is your ability to understand the original story, the hows and the what's and the what's of what why that occurred, and then realize, well, you know, I just kind of made that up for that story around it, even if it felt very real. And I have the ability from a place of responsibility to change that story.
And so you can you can reiterate the mind to a new story. And so a whole new pathway of life opens up for you and new possibilities and opportunities and forms of communication open up for you. However, if you're honest, and you check in and I would say any like any of all clients that we've had over the years have said this to be true, is that there is a growing frustration where it's like, well, how come I have all this wisdom? How come I have all this information?
How come I've seen transformation in my life, but underneath, I still feel the same. And so this is the chase. This is why we keep trying to get the books, keep going to new classes, keep trying to do the next thing, because it's like, well, this didn't do it that over there. Hopefully, he'll heal me.
And it really, if you if you track this, it comes from an energy of desperation, it comes from an energy of like a hopelessness, like, you know, fuck, I gotta get out of this fucking rut. And it doesn't change. And so you know, I did that for 15 years. Okay, so I'm as guilty that as anybody.
Just keep on going, keep thinking this next thing. I'll just gotta be that teacher, I'll be this coach, I'll be that. And so this is why we now make this big distinction for people because we want to understand is like, with mindset work, it's like this, you have this incredible growth curve that goes up, up, up, up, you know, some of you guys are saying you feel the same, uh, Dina, I hope I'm saying your name, right? So she feels the same.
You guys tell me if you feel the same too. And so you feel this, like, upward trajectory that's really exciting. And then after a while, it clots, and then it's like the frustration sets in and it's like, man, it's like this fucking man. And again, you have, I'm not putting this down at all.
You have transformed your life. You're probably more productive than you've ever been. Your relationships are probably better than you've ever been. Your health is probably an order, at least, you know, for most of us.
And then, but there's an undercurrent of sameness. It's like, no, nothing's really changed. And so what you've actually learned to do, if I can name it, is you are now managing your life better and you're coping better with these frustrations, this anger, the scarcity, loneliness, whatever it is that comes up, you're, you're managing coping better, but you haven't healed. And that's the point here is that it hasn't healed.
You've just learned a lot of good mechanisms to deal with it. And so that's why we have like anger management, coping systems. Nobody says we will get rid of it. Nobody's like, no more anger, no more coping.
It's like, that's the thing. You're going to learn systems. And it's cool. Right.
And I do want to give some props here to it. It's cool because what you'll find is that you follow up the horse, so to speak, for much shorter periods of time, right? It's like, yeah, you get upset, but you can like catch it quicker, bring yourself back into that awareness and then kind of like, okay, like we got to bring ourselves back over here. But notice too, in that, that there's like an efforting that I fell off, I got effort to get myself back.
And again, this effort has an inherent frustration in it. Hopefully I'm naming the qualities of this for you guys in a way that makes sense to you. If it does again, say I'm in the chat box, I know you're kind of following the conversation. So let's just breathe with that because it's okay to be frustrated and it's okay that that's happening.
Like we are trying our best as humanity to figure this shit out. So just kind of like shake out your body to get deep breath. And just whatever you need to do in this moment to just kind of first of all, honor the work that you've put in, like just like feel and honoring of the work that you've put in, even if it hasn't always bore you a lot of fruit, like you are trying, you're doing, you're putting in some kind of effort to live a life that's more harmonious, loving, compassionate, and I praise and honor you for that because many people just kind of live a life of state and sameness. They're stubborn, they're too afraid, and the stubbornness comes from fear.
They're too afraid to change. They may not like their reality, but it's the one that they know. You know what's at line? It's like the WNO is better than blah, blah, blah, remember the rest of the line?
But it's like you people rather stay in their rut in the lane than they know, even if they don't like that lane because at least it won't disappoint them. They know what to expect in that rut. Okay? So let's make this turn here into defining a little bit more clearly what waking up work is because it's very distinct from growing up work.
Okay? And by the way, I want to let you guys know for those of you guys who are connecting with the language that I'm using here to describe growing up work and you are at that stage, you are a perfect candidate to be doing work with us. Okay? Like ultimately we can support anybody in the mindset space and all that kind of stuff, but if you've done a lot of that and you're at that point of frustration, what I'm about to say here, I want to make some cocky about it, but it's what you've been looking for.
Okay? And I'm telling you that from a place of I'm around a lot of people who've done developmental work again for 23 years. This is how we've noted this frustration within ourselves and others and anybody who I've introduced into this waking up aspect of the work immediately is like, holy shit, I had no idea. And this is the work that I've been looking for.
So if you are that person, you're enjoying this conversation already, you know you want to talk to someone from our team. All you got to do is you can either type contact me in the chat box below or you can go to, let me just grab this thing for you. I'll pop it on the screen real quick, you can go to accolstatory.com. Okay?
accolstatory.com that will forward you to one of our team members, calendars, you can have a 15 minute discovery or consultation call with them. We don't sell you anything on the first call because we want you to show up without any pressure to feel like you need to buy anything. Ultimately, we want you to have a conversation about this work, see if it's an alignment for you. And then from there, if it is, we can have another conversation about what programs cost, experiences, time, all that stuff looks like.
But ultimately in the beginning, you want to just feel into is this the work that I want to be part of? Yes or no, that's what the first call is for. Okay? So again, if you want to get a consultation, either just type in contact me, someone will reach out to you.
But I actually recommend just going accolstatory.com and booking yourself in. We'll just save you a step or two. Okay? So let's make this turn into waking up work.
Okay? So what is waking up work? Okay? Waking up work is bringing in awareness practices and energy practices.
I don't think, hopefully, at this stage of the game, in our understanding of matter and science and quantum physics, that we can at least hopefully agree on that everything in this world is made out of energy. Okay? And this energy is vibrating and has a frequency that's emitting from it. Okay?
And if you notice, the external experiences that you are having seem to be stimulating some kind of inner experience. Okay? To define this further, what that means is that oftentimes or on people or some situation in your life, it scares you or you feel like, you know, usually when you get scared or when you're in distress, you begin to defend yourself from like a goic type of place. You got to kind of be honest with yourself about this, right?
And so we all have these defensive systems. And that's really what the mind is, is a series of traumas that have happened to you. And the mind has had to create defensive systems to protect this kind of soft, gentle being that lives underneath. And so even the most, you know, sociopathic, non-feeling of us out there, you could say that that person is generally speaking one of the most traumatized people.
And they've had to armor up so much that they're literally, they can't feel anything in their body anymore. Okay? And so it's not a matter of anybody's evil or good or bad, although certainly on the top level, we can, you know, certainly put those observations and distinctions on people. Ultimately, we are dealing with a world where everybody is born into this world as a sensitive child, right?
Because the way I could prove that everyone sensitive when they're a child is that their baby is not born with language. It's not born with any knowledge of this world. And so the only transmission, the only language that a baby and a caregiver has is these energetic singlings, right? Like the baby is picking up on energetic singling.
Now, at that stage of the game, when the child is first in their early development, and early development is really one to three, but really all are up to 70 years old when the mind is being developed and rationality begins and progressive thinking begins and linear thinking begins. Like, you know, I don't know if you guys know this, but the brain has no logic, basically built into it until about seven or eight years old. A child literally can't see the world from another's perspective. They only see it from their own.
And so at this point of the game, the number one thing that a caregiver's quote unquote job is to do is to help the child feel safe. Okay? The way that we do that. And again, this is why a lot of us are traumatized.
And by the way, we're traumatized yes, because of things we perceived and saw with our parents, it's important to realize though that they were significantly more traumatized because of the way they were raised. And so nobody's been taught this because ultimately a child doesn't just need a body to be there and a caregiver to be present with the ultimately need. And you guys check in with your own experience, don't take my word for it is that you as a child weren't just looking for mom and dad to be there. Although that's important, you were looking for a certain type of attunement for mom and dad.
And if you know what I mean by that, and you feel the residents of that to say, I'm in the chat box, I know you're tracking this conversation, you were looking for them to show up in a certain way. Now, again, your parents kind of possibly know how to do this because certainly their parents had no attunement whatsoever. And the child rearing in the past was more around breaking the child's will, making an obedient automaton that didn't question any sort of authority whatsoever. And you can see that now in society and how governments are positioned and built, it's all completely giving away our autonomy and sovereignty to an authoritative figure.
Schools are built this way, most establishments that are hierarchical in any way are built this way, you can take my word for it, you can disagree with me. This is my perception of how things are. And so we have naturally, you have a society of giving away our power to somebody else that knows better. But at its core is this lack of attunement between a caregiver and a child.
And so I know because I've learned this and I have a three and a half year old at home, it still works now. But when he was an infant, when he was a baby and he'd be stressed out, I can tell that my awareness, and we'll talk about this was up here, and we'll talk about what happened, why that happens, and what the effect of that is. And the moment I would bring my awareness out of here and down into my body, the child would relax and fall asleep. This is energetic attunement, and so when a child is upset and it's crying and it's stressed out, if you notice they go through their waves very quickly, hopefully, a sign of a healthy system is a child that gets very upset very fast and it comes down and normalizes into homeostasis and is totally fine.
A child that gets stuck in trauma for long periods of time would lend itself, again, in our experience that the child does not, has not learned how to down regulate their nervous system, and so energy is now fluidly moving through their body. Okay, now if, again, if your parent and your child is not doing this, please don't make yourself wrong, because nobody has learned this. I mean, 99.99% of the living public right now does not know anything about what I'm sharing with you here. Also, if you're hearing this here, there's a reason that you are, there's a reason you're listening to this right now, nothing is a coincidence.
Okay, so you might be in a perfect place in your life to be like, okay, this is interesting. And again, if it's interesting, you want to have a conversation with our team because that curiosity, I would trust your curiosity. Okay, that's your intuition pulling you in a direction. This work is going to alter the fundamental future of your life and the people around you if you do it.
And so the reason for that is because a parent, again, and a tuned parent, when they're holding the child, if you think about what's happened here, as a caregiver, I'm signaling to the child how to regulate their nervous system. And science terminology, we call it down regulation, okay, or arrest and digest state. And I want you to notice those words that science uses arrest and digest, meaning the system goes into a restful state and is digesting. What is it digesting energy?
Energy. So again, energy, you're digesting, energy, instead of another way, you're metabolizing energy. The body cannot metabolize energy unless it's at rest. This is why hypnosis, it's always and relaxed, you feel more relaxed, more relaxed, right?
Why are they doing that? Because as the body as the mind goes into more restful states and meditation, the purpose of meditation meditation is not about quieting the mind, it's about metabolizing energy. You see that again, it's not about quieting the mind, it's about metabolizing energy. So let's talk about what happens when you don't metabolize energy.
Okay, so if again, if you think about your life, think about some circumstance that you're challenged with right now, could be financial, could be relational, could be anything else that just fucking sucks right now. Okay, there's, it's not just out here, there's a resonance here, right? There's a sensation. And so energy is moving through the body, what ends up happening with energy is that wherever the quote unquote trauma was, we call trauma parts of you that are stuck in time.
Okay, so if you're like trauma three years old, there's a part of you that didn't get a need met whenever that thing happened. And that part then kind of, oh, it's almost like it disintegrates, meaning like it comes out of the whole of the system. And it becomes almost like an entity upon itself that views the world from a certain perspective. Okay, so it's not integrated, it's unintegrated, essentially.
Okay, and now that part of you is stuck in time. So now you're in 30, 40, 50 years old, something happens and that energy comes up and that part gets stimulated and the energy gets stuck there. It actually doesn't move through. Because again, I know it's moving through, if you're like a child, you get really upset for a moment and then two minutes later, you're fully regulated.
Right again, we've all seen child that's super, super upset and then boog, they're like happy and laughing. How did they do that? That is a sign of a healthy system. And I want to point to it's not not healthy to throw a trauma, meaning it is healthy to throw a trauma, to be angry, to be upset, to fucking have fury and then regulate that to home your status and just be grounded and peaceful and happy again.
That is a fluid system. It's also why I'm saying a spiritual person, a spiritual person is not a person who never fucks up or never messes with their integrity or never does anything that seems out of the perfection and craziness that happens today and all this culture nonsense that we're seeing all over the world. It's not about that at all. Because there are plenty of systems that cannot express anger.
Like how many of you guys over there, you know, listening to me right now, like, no, you're super stunted when it comes to expressing anger. Like you can't do it. And it could be for a variety of reasons. Either you disown your anger or it actually doesn't feel safe to do that.
Because maybe you grew up in a house or when you when you showed anger, either you got shut down or you got beaten for it, like you got hit in some way. And so then the anger goes, it turns internal and it actually gets angry at the system within because there's nowhere to go against that energy. Right. And so when you see quote unquote aggressive systems in the world, right, like I have a more aggressive system, if I exude anger, but like for me, like I'm clearly very comfortable showing that anger.
Now there's other things that show up for me when I do that, Shane, Blaine, guilt and all these kinds of stuff in my system. But that's what I get to work with. So those are guys are saying like I don't feel safe, right, expressing anger. So you want to start noticing these things.
And again, if you track this, you'll notice it's the same feeling in the body every single time. Like maybe you get flushed in the face, it kind of gets white, or you feel this constriction and like your solar plexus or your stomach, it gets really, really tight. Now notice the way that we deal with that is by reaching for things, usually, that have us avoid our inner experience, right? This is why people overeat.
It's why people drink. So people are addicted to drugs. This is why people have bad relationships or your sex or whatever might be like all these things are defensive and avoid its tactics when we have discomfort in our body. And we don't know what to do with that energy because again, we haven't been taught how to regulate our own nervous systems.
Do you think, again, here's a question for everybody, do you guys think it would be useful to know how to regulate your own nervous system and how to work with it instead of trying to avoid what's happening? And so, and so yes, in the chat box, if you agree. And so for a lot of adults, when you see these like, you know, 30, 40 something, something midlife crises, I believe this is why you have 30, 40 years of pent up energy that has gotten stuck over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. And it's like, there's only so much energy you can contain within a specific container.
After a while, it literally becomes too much for the system and the system goes into a full fucking panic. Right? Again, I'm sure you all have friends that are like totally fine in the 20s. And then 30s and 40s started having panic attacks, right?
Or some kind of disease show up that seem like an anomaly and no one can understand why or overweight and can't seem to lose weight. These are all ways that the system is trying to create safety and navigate itself. But it doesn't work. Because again, nothing is in the rest of digest state.
You're not done regulated. And so this is for many of us, if not all of us, why we missed a huge part of the developmental aspects of growing up, because our parents couldn't have thought of this, they didn't know how to. And this stress, the stressful life kind of begins from there. And so with the waking up work, what we learn is how to put ourselves into a state of awareness and consciousness that allows for the body to regulate itself.
And when the body regulates itself, and you go into a rest and digest state, rest and digest state, this energy that stuck in the body begins to metabolize, metabolize and metabolize. When the energy metabolizes, guess what? That's stressor that's living in the system isn't there. And so in the same token, the mind, which is really this like observation deck, so to speak, that's looking down at everything.
And every time there's something that's stimulated that the mind doesn't like the mind's, oh, that's not good. Run program. I don't like that. Run program.
I don't like that. Run program. And that program is out of your control. You have done that hundreds of thousands of times most likely in your life.
And it's so habituated that it just fires unconsciously, right? Yeah, the observation deck. Thank you. So what we want to do is we don't want to change the observation deck.
And that's what growing up we're going to focus on. It's like, let's change the observation deck. But it's like, but that's so ingrained. You've done that 100,000 times.
Imagine you do anything in your life, play, play an instrument, jump rope, like 100,000 repetitions. You're going to do that pretty fucking well. And unconsciously, that's what people like martial arts are. You practice over and over again.
So when that thing happens, the body just responds, or military action or whatever it might be, right? Like that is what being a master is it's like, you're not thinking it's just happening, right? There's a similar, it's happening. That is how our defense systems work.
And so that is very hard to breathe habituated. Is it possible? Yeah, but under extraordinary amount of effort. And I know, I mean, like, again, 15 years of like doing that work every fucking day.
Yes, does it make a difference? Absolutely. But again, just managing and coping better. This hasn't disappeared because it's still getting stuck.
The energy is still getting stuck in the system. And so what we want to do is not learn how to manage and cope better. What we want to learn how to do is to not have the mind, like to no longer have the stimulus in the system. So the mind has nothing to respond to.
Just imagine that the mind is the observation deck is looking, but there's nothing to respond to because when that energy hates your body, the energy moves in, I'm regulated again. And so what I want you to leave here with today is a question is when when this gets stimulated and when it normally happens when it gets stimulated, it's what we would call stress, anxiety, scarcity, lack, fear, even terror, terror is a really normal response that people have that most people don't recognize are living in terror. And when you're living in that all the time, how would you know? Again, how would you know if your entire life that you can remember has been lived in a fight or flight state?
And so everything has been built on that like underneath all your belief systems and positivity, scarcity underneath all your beliefs and blah, blah, blah, blah is fear, you know, and you're living your life trying to create an environment that avoids looking at and experiencing this fear or scarcity or lacking your system. And that is how most of humanity is living. That's why people get stuck set in each other. That's what comment boxes online look the way that they do because anything that is not agreeable with their reality ultimately is beginning to scratch that underneath thing that their system a long time ago said we are never going to have to feel that again.
Again, sociopaths, people don't seem to have a lot of emotional feedback. These are highly traumatized systems. And so if you poke at their reality and it begins to scratch all the defenses, what's underneath all those defenses, all those defenses come out like, we've had a few political figures in the last few years that I can point to that have this phenomenon. They're not bad, but that's what that system is dealing with.
Okay. And so when you understand this, you start having a lot of compassion for people because you realize that ultimately what everyone is trying to deal with, what everybody is not feeling because we've conditioned the world this way and you're looking, you've got to check in with your own system again. Don't believe me is that we have a world where people don't fundamentally feel safe. They don't feel safe in their bodies.
They don't feel safe in this world. And if you look around at what's occurring in our world, you'll see this is how people act when they don't feel safe. This is why the shootings are happening. This is why we get crazy responses like we do with COVID and then authoritarianism and all this kind of stuff, this all throughout our history, right?
This is a lack of safety. And so safety is not an experience out here, which is how we're conditioned to believe it. It's actually experiencing here. How many of you guys can track that?
Say I in the chat box. We actually have to develop safety as a felt sense within ourselves. And then guess what happens to reality? If you feel safe, your reality begins reflecting safe circumstances.
Okay. And so this is what we want to go to work on. This is what all our work on is around here. I wish we could write a headline, come here and feel more safe.
People wouldn't even know what I'm talking about because we have it most people haven't come to this level of awareness. And so I want to explain to you how this works. Okay. So when we when we ask people, and again, if you're if you're tracking this or enjoying this conversation, you have curiosity, you are the person we're talking to please come talk to our team so that we can help you navigate, you know, basically how to how to do this work in a way that you can actually generate safety in your body, create more well-being as an established felt sense.
And I promise you, once you transformation, go fucking crazy in your life. It's because of the frequency, the energetic output of your body's going to change, reality's going to reflect as much safety and well-being as you have in your system. So if you want to see a more transformed world, stop working on them, start working on you and realize as you develop this feeling of safety and well-being in your body, everybody around you is going to is going to reap the rewards of that. And these days we see people's relationships change very rapidly, even the most tenuous ones, because the moment you bring safety and well-being into your life, you stop reenacting trauma that you do with your parents with your spouse, or your loved ones.
And so they can come out of that role that they have been playing because you're no longer trying to get that need met. Like your system has been trying to get a need met, and then those have been with mom and dad. Well, if they would just see me, if they would just acknowledge me right, there's this need that you're trying to get met in your system and just realize you may never get that need met with mom and dad. However, you can go get that need met, and then when you're around mom and dad or loved one, you know, you feel in the blank, you won't be playing that role anymore.
That needs already met so that relationship just transforms. They no longer have to play that role. We put people in our lives in those roles, more often than that. Okay.
And I know that can be triggering to here because you're like, well, they're being abusive towards me, I'm not putting myself in their role. Yes. And they're both true. It's like there's an energy that's being emitted, and there's a part of you that has a defense like a role that it's playing, and it needs to prove its worth.
So subconsciously, we put ourselves in circumstances so that that part of us can have a role to play. That part is actually very scared. If that thing got over there, if that got healed, I don't have a role to play anymore. And I'm telling you, there's a deep concern in these internal parts that if you transform or change your life, that they will not have a role and they can't come with, and there's actually a way that we inform those parts that whatever transformation is going to occur, they're actually going to come with us.
And that's what healing is. It's reintegrating that part. So, it's aware of the whole system, and it's not sitting there on an island by itself. And most people's approach to healing or transformation is, I just want to get rid of that part of me.
I don't like that part of me. I'm so sorry, guys, to tell you every part that you've ever exuded, every experience you've had, every emotion that you've had, it's all coming with you. Ain't nothing yet left behind. If you're experiencing it, that's because it's part of the system, which means you don't want to get rid of it.
You actually want to get intimate with it. And that is what healing is. It's reintegrating that. So it's not, it's getting its needs meant.
It's not feeling alone. And so it doesn't have to act out. You know, if you take a child again, a child, and now these work best here, if you take a child and tell them to shut up and put them in a room, the child doesn't just sit there and go, okay, mom, I'll just be here quietly. They bang on the door.
Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang, they try to get your attention. They're trying to get their needs met. And that's exactly what these parts are doing. And that's why they show up and are very disruptive, because we're not, we're not listening to them.
I'm not paying attention. So I only a few minutes here. But here's what I want to tell you. When you tell people, when you ask people, where are they?
Like, where are they? Where are they? Where are they? Where are from?
Most people point at their heads. They point right here. They point at the space behind their eyes, because it seems like the observable world is coming in through these senses and they were somewhere sitting back here, observing it. Now that is true.
That is true to the extent of that you have been conditioned, most of us, if not all of us, have been conditioned to place our awareness here, okay? The reason you want to start practicing the meditation that we offer here and doing classes with us is because this is just one place where awareness can be. This is called localized awareness or conditioned awareness. And something very special happens when you train yourself to un-localize awareness and come out into a higher state of consciousness, which can be named spacious awareness or awake awareness.
And when you train yourself to do this, you actually begin to live outside of the conditioning of the mind. And just like in the minds of the family where you can be the observer that's listening to conscious thought, you can become the observer, not just a conscious thought, but of actual energy that's moving in the body. These very subtle sensations that are happening all the time and that are truly dictating the quality of your life. When you do that, you actually train the nervous system to down-regulate.
Why? Because now instead of being an object-object relationship with your reality, you create space against subtle awareness between you as the object, meaning like your personality or ego, your identity, and you as awareness that's sitting back here watching the personality and ego. And after a while, the personality is like a reality TV show. It gets fucking funny.
You're like, oh my God, look at my personality go. And so instead of being absorbed and merged into the melodrama of life, you can just see that there's a mechanism, a defensive mechanism at work here that's doing what it's doing, but that's not who you are. You are the awareness that is watching. And that is all you are, all you've ever been, all you ever will be, whether in this body or the next.
It is the face you had before you had this face. It is the original awareness. It is what connects into everything and all things. It works exactly like the internet.
Yes, you are a terminal, but most terminals have not connected to the internet yet. When you learn how to do this awareness practice, this is what we call the awareness effect, you actually reconnect to the all and you start understanding through your own experience that being one, right, as a community, a global human community of consciousness and awareness does not mean everybody agreeing or believing in the same thing. That is not what being one means. Being one is connecting to the field of energy and awareness all the time.
The moment you do that, other people's opinions don't matter anymore. You're not affected. You will never comment in a social media box again. I'm sorry because I don't.
I don't give a shit when anybody thinks or does or like those opinions. Like, I don't play that game because I don't have these needs that are trying to be met through these common boxes. And again, go look at it. Go read it from this, from this advantage point, it's just a bunch of needs trying to get met when you actually learn how to work with your system to down regulate it and meet these needs internally, you will not do these melodramic things out here in the life because they will literally serve no purpose to you.
And so life takes on an air of ease and grace. Everything comes easier. You build a confidence that you know how you can be with anything. And again, more than anything, fundamentally building resilience in your system to feel safe and well-being emotionally fluid.
These are all natural byproducts of doing this work. And the beauty is that it's not you and I doing healing or anything like that. We're navigating you towards your own divine intelligence. The same intelligence that when you cut a finger, and those that put that finger back together just as it was, no one can dictate that.
It just happens on its own. What we want to learn in this time and humanity is how do we use that same intelligence for healing the lineage trauma that humanity has been living with for thousands of years. And that trauma can really end with you because that trauma has been kept getting passed down and evolved and passed down and evolved. But when you do this work, you don't have to pass that on.
So in my worldview, as you get enough people doing this work, you're one generation away from being one, from having safety, well-being, connection. I'll start wrapping this up because we're already a minute over here. If this is touching your heart, your curiosity, come talk to us. So again, if you want to get on a schedule and have a conversation with someone from our team, and I want you to know the people you talk to when you do these 15-minute calls, again, there's nothing to buy in these calls, these are consultations, discovery calls.
These are people who are doing this work every single day. So they're not just someone selling you a product or making sure like, we don't sell products, we sell experiences, if anything. And these people are coming from a place of absolute service in their life. They are doing this work.
And so you can get on the call and actually feel the resonance and the presence. Hopefully you feel it through my system too, of someone who's doing this work. I appreciate that. You're saying like great explanation.
And like, here's the thing, you can't explain this stuff because you read it in the book. Hopefully you're getting that. I'm generating this from my own experience because as I continue to do this work and evolve my system, I am liberating myself from the traumatic lineage that has been passed down to me. And I come from a Jewish lineage.
There's plenty of trauma that sits with my people that I was literally born in Israel to Russian immigrant parents that ran away from multi-generationals of oppression. So I want you to know, I'm a living embodiment, but healing is a very real thing. I was depressed. I was suicidal.
All these things, and I don't take any medicines, any pills to deal with any of those things. And once in a while, I think I still have my system and call it a depression in my system. My confidence comes from I know how to work my system. And so everything that triggers me also becomes an opportunity for healing.
That's fucking confidence. And that's what's available here. So again, if you guys are interested, you can certainly right contact me in the chat box, but skip that step and just go to callcitori.com, book yourself in, work comes to work. This work is not for you.
And that's the best comes to best. You come and join us in our programs and we show you how far the rabbit hole goes. Okay? We love you guys very much.
Always very grateful for your awareness and attention, for your willingness to be here, for your willingness to be curious and open. We know that's your number one most valuable asset. So we appreciate you giving it here. Love you guys very, very much.
We'll see you back here next Tuesday. And we look forward to serving those of you that are interested. Bye, y'all. See you next week.
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