284: Dropout daughter, Autism, Social connections, Rethinking 10 paid dates?

In today's show, the drs discuss I am worried about my daughter. She graduated with a perfect gpa while also modeling. After her degree, she moved to pursue modelling but she soon developed an eating disorder and quit.  Subsequently, she attended medical school but dropped out due to an illness caused by stress. She moved back home but she doesn't want to work or go back to school. In fact, she barely leaves the house. Whenever I try to talk to her about it, she starts crying and we never get anywhere. I hate to see her waste her life like this. Please help, I don't know what to do to help. Any thoughts on autism or Asperger's, particularly in women? I am a 35 year-old woman who has struggled in life in very specific ways. I'm trying to figure out if my issues are related to being on the spectrum or if they are simply a result of the combination of my big 5. I find friendships draining, and the cost of friendships are not worth the payback. My concern is that there is pressure to make and maintain social connections, for example Dr. Dean Ornish believes social connections are one key to reversing disease. My concern is this pressure could cause unnecessary anxiety for some people, who become anxious trying to keep connections, when they could be just as happy without them.  I'm trying to follow your 10 paid dates strategy, but men just don't pay anymore! Isn't this a slightly archaic expectation or do I need to lower my standards? I'm 40 and would very much like to find the right man and have a kid while I still can. I'm athletic, a solid 9 physically, of high intelligence, relatively successful and highly agreeable. I've been on dating apps for over a year and been on countless dates. The only man who paid for our date knew about the 10 paid dates strategy and was honest enough to tell me he's only interested in casual mating. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld                               Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D. Podcast website:  www.BeatYourGenes.org True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : www.TrueToLife.us   Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus