289. When Self-Improvement Quietly Becomes Self-Rejection

Send us Fan MailThere is a version of self-improvement that stops being about growth and quietly turns into a way to never feel okay as you are. You track the sleep, you take the supplements, you do the work, and somewhere in there, it stops being "I want to get better" and becomes "I'm one habit away from finally being acceptable." That is the line Anna has been feeling lately, and she is done pretending she is above it.Join Anna and Tim as they get honest about where optimization culture has gone too far. Anna is a high-performance coach and a therapist who promotes a lot of this stuff, and she still says the part most people will not say out loud: that all this self-monitoring can become ego dressed up in wellness language, a quiet moral superiority that slides into comparison, exhaustion, and loneliness. She gets into her own athlete years too, the ego she carried, and the cocky triathlete sitting at the finish line who became a mirror for everything she did not want to become.This Episode Covers:When self-improvement quietly turns into self-rejection, and you stop feeling okay as you are.How optimization becomes ego dressed up in wellness language, and the moral superiority hiding underneath it.Why there is no finish line to enoughness, and how the goalposts keep moving until you burn out.The smoke and mirrors of the highlight reel and what is really happening on the other side of the camera.Moving from self-care into self-surveillance, and how comparison starts to feel virtuous.The loneliness of always working on yourself, and what Anna lost when she turned her whole life into a project.Becoming better humans versus becoming more anxious managers of yourselves.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.Mad love!Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coachingThe podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYquDon’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform!CONNECT WITH ANNA:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolinEmail [email protected] https://www.annamarcolin.com