289: Why We Always Feel Awful - And How To Fix It

Modern life bombards us with stresses our bodies are not physically equipped (or evolved) to handle. It's no wonder so many of us are overwhelmed and struggling. Luckily, there are effective strategies and tools to help manage and reduce stress. You just need to learn how to tap into them. Here today to help us better navigate life's stressors is Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe, an internationally acclaimed speaker and resiliency expert. With over 18 years of experience in education and psychology, Dr. Robyne is renowned for her transformative approach to stress management and personal wellness. She is also the award-winning author of Calm Within the Storm: A Pathway to Everyday Resiliency and her new book, Stress Wisely: How to Be Well in an Unwell World. In today's conversation, you'll hear Robyne share her expert insights as we delve into practical methods for building resilience and finding balance amidst the chaos. We discuss the five pillars of resilience, from belonging and acceptance to hope and humor, before unpacking the pivotal role of each in maintaining our well-being. Robyne also shares her powerful thoughts on self-compassion, why you can't shame yourself into doing better, and how our historical ability to adapt continuously inspires her to feel hope for the future. Tune in to discover how to break free from the stress cycle, build periods of rest into your routine, and harness emotional intelligence to create a healthier, happier life! Key Highligts From This Episode: Defining resiliency and our innate ability to show up for those who depend on us. [05:32] Unpacking the power of hope and how it fits into resiliency. [08:28] Signs of toxic positivity and the self-awareness required to reach your goals. [13:17] Why we aren't physically equipped for modern life and how to build in periods of rest. [15:52] Tuning into self-awareness and your body's attempts to reregulate. [21:17] The five pillars of resilience: belonging, perspective, acceptance, hope, and humor. [23:47] How to acknowledge and address deep existential fears. [35:31] Where you can find Dr. Robyne and her latest book online. [39:04]   For More Information: Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe on LinkedIn Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe on X Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe on Facebook   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:  Check out Dr. Robyne's award-winning book Calm Within the Storm: A Pathway to Everyday ResiliencyDiscover life-changing lessons in her latest work Stress Wisely: How to Be Well in an Unwell World   ——————— Take a 10% discount off of Kathy's 6-session Career & Leadership Breakthrough coaching program and Most Powerful You video series! IS IT FINALLY TIME FOR A TRUE SHIFT IN YOUR CAREER AND LEADERSHIP? Do you feel ready and excited to make the essential changes you've been longing for in your career but need some empowering support to begin? That help is here! 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It's what you do with the pieces afterward that's really going to talk about the quality of your life." — @dr_robynehd [0:09:47] "Motivational quotes only work if you put in the work. Simply sticking those post-it notes on your mirror [isn't] going to do anything unless you action it." — @dr_robynehd [0:15:02] "We are very much addicted to this stress-cycle behavior that I'm seeing in my work right now – we were meant to have a lot more ease." — @dr_robynehd [0:17:16] "Living the dream shouldn't kill you. And it was burning me out." — @dr_robynehd [0:19:40] "You can't hate yourself healthy. That's probably the biggest misconception about all of this. We can't shame ourselves into doing better. We can't guilt ourselves into changing behavior." — @dr_robynehd [0:23:01] "Historically, as a species, we have been able to rally. 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