289. You're Networking Wrong (What to Do Instead) with Danielle Robay

Today I'm sitting down for another chat with one of my favorite guests, Danielle Robay. Danielle’s a TV host, journalist, host of Question Everything, co-executive producer of Bookmarked alongside Reese Witherspoon, and also one of my IRL good friends (a friendship that started, fittingly, as a work relationship). We're getting into how to turn relationships into your next job, business, or opportunity, and what to stop doing immediately if you want to earn more. Danielle reframes "networking" as long-game relationship-building, hands you a follow-up template you can use tomorrow, and explains why the cold "can I pick your brain?" email is going straight to the trash. If you're in transition — graduating, switching careers, getting a business off the ground — this one's for you.  Danielle’s links: Website: https://www.daniellerobay.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellerobay/ Danielle's podcast: https://www.daniellerobay.com/prettysmart Question Everything card game: https://questioneverything.us/    Catch our other podcast episodes with Danielle: How to be the Most Interesting Person in the Room with Danielle Robay: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/ask-better-questions/ Owning Your Ambition with Danielle Robay: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/owning-your-ambition-danielle-robay/  Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to grab our free Goal Setting Worksheet for a framework that will help you set actionable goals to take your dreams from ‘hope’ to ‘action.’   00:00 Intro  00:59 Why ambitious women network constantly but don't earn more 02:30 How Danielle's relationship to networking changed as her platform grew 04:30 The invented husband + two kids: a boundary hack 06:00 What makes a bad ask (and how to make a good one) 08:00 The "Quick question" subject-line hack 09:00 Why the "why" matters more than the "how" 11:00 Curiosity is a skill — and you already have it 13:00 The bamboo plant story 17:00 How to stay motivated when nobody's replying 19:00 What high earners do differently when they network 22:00 "What's your biggest pain point?" — the email that lands interviews 26:00 Mid-episode: free goal-setting worksheet 27:00 Where women network in ways that get them liked but not paid 33:00 The networking habit to stop immediately 35:00 Role play: how to follow up in 4 real scenarios 42:00 Getting into rooms where decisions and dollars are made 44:00 The #1 shift to make this year: throw the event Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices