29: Bernenda Tells Us How War, Loss, Death, And Mental Health Collided — Changing Everything For A Soldier And Police Officer

Bernenda’s life is a story of service, sacrifice, and survival—revealing the hidden cost of being both a Soldier and a police officer, and how war, loss, and untreated mental health trauma can collide.Born into an undocumented Haitian family, Bernenda learned resilience early. A high-achieving student and the first in her family to join JROTC, she enlisted in the military and deployed overseas at a young age. She returned home changed, carrying unprocessed trauma and little support.Determined to keep serving, Bernenda became a police officer. But while on duty, her partner and close friend was struck by a drunk driver. Though initially surviving the impact, they were pronounced dead on scene. In a single moment, Bernenda lost her partner and her friend. Soon after, she also lost both of her parents.As the weight of war, sudden death, and compounded grief mounted, Bernenda pushed forward—staying silent and staying on the job, as many in uniform are taught to do. Eventually, the pressure became unbearable. While still serving as a police officer, she experienced a mental health crisis that ended her career.In this episode, Bernenda speaks openly about trauma, depression, suicidal thoughts, and what it means to reach a breaking point while wearing a uniform. This conversation shines a light on the mental health risks faced by Soldiers, veterans, and first responders—and the urgent need for better support.Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of death, suicide, war trauma, and mental health crises. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling, please seek professional help or contact local crisis resources.